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72. 💙💙💙💙💙thank you. I am so sorry for what you've gone through and the scars you carry. It's not fair.

Fri May 16, 2025, 03:17 PM

Friday

I was feeling guilty about not having much at all to do with my father, when I saw his Facebook posts blaming the democratic lawmakers arrested by ice for “shoving ice officials” and how the fake media like the non-RWNJ channels and Time magazine. Says every article is anti Trump lies, making him seem like a dictator.

So my father is seeing the truth, exposed to it, but calls it all lies. He is completely captured by the Trump cult and it’s just impossible to have a relationship with someone like that, on top of all the abuse he never made amends for.

Just too much. Can’t do it.

Don’t want to have anything to do with Trumpers.

All of the Trumpers I know are cruel and messed up people, too. Not a single one is kind and empathetic.

It feels like 99% of the world is made of bad people.

It’s so hard ro trust.

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Thank you so so much! 💙💙💙. I think they are just angry to lose their favorite punching bag. They don't LiberalLoner Tuesday #6

Absolutely! And they absolutely will turn on someone else now that you've extricated yourself SheltieLover Tuesday #8

💙💙💙💙poor next scapegoat. LiberalLoner Tuesday #11

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Your husband is correct synni Tuesday #7

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Great book: "Scapegoat Complex" SheltieLover Tuesday #9

Thank you so so much! 💙💙💙💙. I will find it and read it, even if it is triggering. It might help explain why LiberalLoner Tuesday #14

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On it. wordstroken Wednesday #54

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💙💙💙🤗🤗🤗. Funny thing is, they are the ones who appear, or are, "normal" to the outside world. LiberalLoner Wednesday #45

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💙💙💙🤗🤗🤗 I mostly daydreamed about suicide every day. Thought about dashing in front of a school bus. LiberalLoner Wednesday #46

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