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MrSlayer

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19. It depends.

Reply to Taverner (Original post)

Fri Nov 30, 2012, 08:40 PM

Nov 2012

There is no black and white answer. It's always wrong if you have a willing partner. It's never wrong if your spouse is cool with it. It's sometimes ok if you really love your spouse but they are unwilling or incapable.

It's complicated.

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Having an extra-marital affair is... [View all] Taverner Nov 2012 OP

Why do you ask? femmocrat Nov 2012 #1

I smell flowers. Iggo Nov 2012 #9

Poly? Chan790 Nov 2012 #2

More complication than I want in my life OmahaBlueDog Nov 2012 #3

A very fast way sarisataka Nov 2012 #4

I would have voted "FUN" waddirum Nov 2012 #5

...seldom worth the consequences. bluedigger Nov 2012 #6

... Newt Gingrich lutefisk Nov 2012 #7

No one's business except those involved. Behind the Aegis Nov 2012 #8

By "affair" I assume one party in the marriage does not consent dr.strangelove Nov 2012 #10

Yup, it isn't the act, but the deception Spike89 Nov 2012 #17

relationships dr.strangelove Dec 2012 #40

would you consent or forgive it? Tuesday Afternoon Nov 2012 #32

of course not dr.strangelove Dec 2012 #41

just making sure - Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2012 #42

"something you should blog about?" n/t. Ken Burch Nov 2012 #11

+1 Chan790 Nov 2012 #12

Huh? retread Nov 2012 #13

i thought 'dangerous' first rurallib Nov 2012 #14

What if your wife hooks you up? TrogL Nov 2012 #15

There have been circumstances where a spouse has disappeared, is in extremis, etc. nolabear Nov 2012 #16

None of my business! bigwillq Nov 2012 #18

It depends. MrSlayer Nov 2012 #19

Sorry for an unrelated question but.... Taverner Nov 2012 #20

I'm a great lover of irony. MrSlayer Nov 2012 #21

No president today could get away with publicly threatening to hang his (former)VP Kaleva Nov 2012 #22

Different times for sure. MrSlayer Nov 2012 #23

I think Cleveland is the only President who executed a condemned prisoner Kaleva Nov 2012 #29

Yes, two of them. MrSlayer Nov 2012 #30

And I think Jackson was shot by a man who later became a U.S Senator Kaleva Nov 2012 #31

That would be Thomas Hart Benton Spider Jerusalem Dec 2012 #46

Nowadays we can't even get an indictment. rug Nov 2012 #24

Your answer should be the same as your wife's. rug Nov 2012 #25

Agreed. nt ZombieHorde Nov 2012 #28

...something I'd almost kill for... lastlib Nov 2012 #26

Right and wrong comes from the observor, and not the matter or event being observed. ZombieHorde Nov 2012 #27

How very empirical of an answer. Chan790 Nov 2012 #33

And look! the poll has over 80 observers! eom yawnmaster Dec 2012 #34

What? Is this a joke based on number of views? ZombieHorde Dec 2012 #35

I had an affair and don't regret it Ex Lurker Dec 2012 #36

"cold, distant, borderline abusive, and they hadn't had sex in over a year ..." dawg Dec 2012 #47

+100 Taverner Dec 2012 #50

Done at your own peril, because you know better. n/t flvegan Dec 2012 #37

Regardless of morality, there are some VERY serious risks to consider. nt rDigital Dec 2012 #38

I think they are wrong, but God did not make judge and jury. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #39

Just so long as the silentwarrior Dec 2012 #43

"Stupid." Brigid Dec 2012 #44

Trouble. mnhtnbb Dec 2012 #45

None of my business if it isn't my marriage. MadrasT Dec 2012 #48

+100 Taverner Dec 2012 #49

agreed La Lioness Priyanka Dec 2012 #53

a long and winding road. Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2012 #51

My Ex-Wife's Affair Ended Our Marriage cantbeserious Dec 2012 #52