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QueerDuck

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20. Exactly. It's exhausting trying trying to be a good ally...
Tue Mar 31, 2026, 02:58 PM
Mar 2026

I can only imagine the toll of actually living that reality every day. It's deeply disheartening when various progressive spaces (the very places that should know better) end up silencing or dismissing the people who call out unfortunate double standards. It’s the "cis-splaining" and the hostility and the selective outrage that makes it so draining. It feels like some people are more interested in protecting a particular narrative than they are in protecting the actual human beings involved, or in acknowledging how hurtful it all is. I really appreciate you speaking up in support.

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To all members of the Trans community ... [View all] 31st Street Bridge Mar 2026 OP
Yes, thank you! Tesha Mar 2026 #1
I despise JK Rowling!!! wolfie001 Mar 2026 #2
We see you. We hear you. We love you. Wild blueberry Mar 2026 #3
A giant K&R MustLoveBeagles Mar 2026 #4
+1000 k0rs Mar 2026 #5
+1000 LoisB Mar 2026 #6
A beautiful sentiment --- and a call to be better allies. 💕🫂🏳️‍⚧️ QueerDuck Mar 2026 #7
Thank you for this. Ms. Toad Mar 2026 #19
Exactly. It's exhausting trying trying to be a good ally... QueerDuck Mar 2026 #20
Deserves many kicks. bluestarone Mar 2026 #8
Kick and Rec berniesandersmittens Mar 2026 #9
Unconditional support and love... bsiebs Mar 2026 #10
Another giant K&R. WestMichRad Mar 2026 #11
K&R Lifeafter70 Mar 2026 #12
Thank you and you too! Oneironaut Mar 2026 #13
And another. Thank you! mountain grammy Mar 2026 #14
Love this BaronChocula Mar 2026 #15
What a kind and thoughtful OP! yardwork Mar 2026 #16
Wearing transgender pride colors today at work. Aristus Mar 2026 #17
For my grandchild, and our family - WE WILL NOT BE INVISIBLE OR SILENT! n/t TygrBright Mar 2026 #18
I looked for a folk song "Do what you want to do, Be who you want to be" and no luck. Not what I remembered. usonian Mar 2026 #21
The Cardigans "Step on Me" has those words, but it is about an abusive relationship, so I don't think that is the one generalbetrayus Mar 2026 #22
Go where you wanna go lonely bird Mar 2026 #23
Thanks. I noted it, and added my short version. usonian Mar 2026 #28
You are welcome lonely bird Apr 2026 #32
Hall and Oates MichMan Mar 2026 #30
31st Street Bridge, I'm sending along your thoughts to my beautiful trans granddaughter. generalbetrayus Mar 2026 #24
HEAR, HEAR Skittles Mar 2026 #25
K & R Permanut Mar 2026 #26
Kick! SheltieLover Mar 2026 #27
Hear, hear!!! Beacool Mar 2026 #29
I'm late to the party, but I wouldn't miss this chance to express my support! ShazzieB Mar 2026 #31
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