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Jilly_in_VA

(13,258 posts)
5. I am so sorry
Thu Oct 9, 2025, 06:50 PM
Thursday

This is the most dangerous time, when a person tries to leave a partner, particularly if they are abusive and/or have a gun. It's why domestic violence shelters don't publish their addresses.

Many years ago I helped a friend leave her abusive husband. Neither one of us had much money but I gave her what little I could. She drove to Knoxville and sold her car for cash, took a bus to California with her kids, and went under the radar. She couldn't even work as a nurse because her husband could have traced her by her license. I told her to contact me to let me know she was safe but not to let me know where she was in case he called me, so I could truthfully say I didn't know. He did call me a couple of times but I could tell him without lying that I didn't know where she was. I think she eventually was able to get a divorce but I really don't know. In any case, he eventually died of alcoholism.

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This is tragic. yellow dahlia Thursday #1
Terrible Starbeach Thursday #2
That is horrific. My heart goes out to your friend's significant other and family. LoisB Thursday #3
I am so sorry. essaynnc Thursday #4
I am so sorry Jilly_in_VA Thursday #5
a friend back in my hometown did this. mopinko Thursday #6
I'm so sorry. chowder66 Thursday #7
K & R malaise Thursday #8
My condolences 😞 MustLoveBeagles Thursday #9
That's terrible. I'm very sorry to hear it. NNadir Thursday #10
It leaves deep scars BeneteauBum Thursday #11
❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 live love laugh Thursday #13
You are so right - Chump has politicized domestic violence in order to get "better" numbers FakeNoose Thursday #12
I'm sorry cate94 Thursday #14
I lost one of my two best friends in high school that way Warpy Thursday #15
I had a friend whose spouce was abusing her sporatically. applegrove Friday #16
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