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hamsterjill

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53. Always a good idea to be your own best advocate.

Tue Oct 7, 2025, 07:40 PM

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I've had several times when (thankfully) minor medical stuff was addressed as if it were major, and I had a gut feeling that I should check with another provider. Did check and it was a different approach. I don't want to appear like an arrogant idiot because I don't go to the doctor to tell THEM what to do. But I think most of us can sense when we were are simply being "oversold".

When I have felt that way, I feel like it's in my best interest to back off, find someone else to provide another opinion, and then decide. The point is to always follow through with someone else and not just ignore something because you have a sense about it. Always better safe than sorry.

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I applaud your resolve and common sense. no_hypocrisy Tuesday #1

a good lesson Skittles Tuesday #2

excellent advice.... markie Tuesday #3

I had something similar LittleGirl Tuesday #55

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Good for you! mgardener Tuesday #4

Underscores the value of a second opinion (and where possible, a close friend, colleague or hlthe2b Tuesday #5

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Terrific advice. PCIntern Tuesday #10

Glad your intuition was on target! Fla Dem Tuesday #11

Reading your experience with the electrophysiologist makes me thank my lucky stars TexLaProgressive Tuesday #12

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