I know this isn't about me, it's my brother… May I ask???

[MrMickeysMom]

I noticed from comments that whenever there's a question, the group responds…

My brother, who after 40 years of marriage, then divorce, then "adjustment" to find himself, had a girlfriend who finally, after searching around, seemed to be "perfect". I know that nobody is…

Long story (and it is a long one) short, she has dropped him after deciding that he is just to rough for her rather ideal everyday expectations -

Expectations:

1) No tolerance for swearing (she even spelled, "h.e.c.k." when mad)

2) No tolerance for forgetting to call her by a certain time (which he was pretty damned good at doing)

3) No tolerance for "not getting it up" (this was the strange one.. he's in his 60's and I have to say, that's a tall order sometimes)

I could go on, but after playing "Dear Abby" and asking him to honestly analyze this strict regimen, I find that she was pretty predictable as to what she would say and how she would say it relating to every day phone calls, and weirdly, in the bedroom. Now, before you think I'm strange for getting this involved into the discussion, you have to understand that I'm pretty honest with siblings. Frankly, after the years of marriage and what my brother thought it was going to take to "keep a girlfriend", he has analyzed so much with me, that I've asked if he could ask others, especially professionally. I don't want to give sex advice. What I'm really wondering is the controlled nature of this woman. There are too many things unknown behind that kind of control that give me pause. I and my sister have advised him to steer clear. Somehow, he keeps thinking he ought to be able to have a chance again.

There may be many more issues brother-wise… I'm just wondering about the over 60 dating and relationship thing and if this controlled behavior from his now ex-girlfriend was a sign of much stronger issues with her.

Any thoughts? Thanks in advance…