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3Hotdogs

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12. Consider hiring an elder law attorney. Your county Bar Association can give referrals.
Mon Nov 8, 2021, 09:18 PM
Nov 2021

Also, were either of your parents combat veterans?

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Speak with an attorney and see if the trust can be amended to appoint an independent trustee. guillaumeb Nov 2021 #1
dad doesnt trust anyone... FirstLight Nov 2021 #8
Understood. guillaumeb Nov 2021 #10
You really should get your dad's unlimited power of attorney so you *can* pay his bills Ocelot II Nov 2021 #2
one step at a time...I dont WANT him thinking I wanna take over. and at least FirstLight Nov 2021 #9
My daughter is a co-signer on my checking accounts; she is not a co-owner. No Vested Interest Nov 2021 #13
agreed azureblue Nov 2021 #16
Hope it goes well for all 3 of you. blm Nov 2021 #3
I don't know if you will be able to make changes in many of your parent's planning. TexasTowelie Nov 2021 #4
Oh, my goodness leftieNanner Nov 2021 #5
I'm not sure why you want to change the trust. Phoenix61 Nov 2021 #6
Are you a Trustee? nt DURHAM D Nov 2021 #7
yes FirstLight Nov 2021 #11
Consider hiring an elder law attorney. Your county Bar Association can give referrals. 3Hotdogs Nov 2021 #12
My dad served in Korea nt FirstLight Nov 2021 #21
He and your mom are eligible for benefits. Maybe some are available now. 3Hotdogs Nov 2021 #27
Omg. God bless you and wishing you well. Joinfortmill Nov 2021 #14
I wish you were mine . . . AndyS Nov 2021 #15
GET...A...GOOD...ATTORNEY...ASAP ashredux Nov 2021 #17
This message was self-deleted by its author ashredux Nov 2021 #18
I'm no expert but the folks here who are urging you to talk to a lawyer are right. calimary Nov 2021 #19
Support group? Auggie Nov 2021 #20
I wish.... I do have several friends around my age who are also FirstLight Nov 2021 #22
You might want to consider using Informed Delivery LiberalFighter Nov 2021 #23
it's all new to me... and Im not trying to just TAKE OVER FirstLight Nov 2021 #24
Start writing "contemporaneous" notes.... reACTIONary Nov 2021 #25
really good idea! FirstLight Nov 2021 #26
My sister was the one that had to do this for my parents csziggy Nov 2021 #28
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