Dilemma

[Tobin S.]

5. He could just be an asshole.

I've run across plenty of assholes in my time who aren't mentally ill, but I've never been in your situation.

Personally, I suffered from what has been diagnosed as bipolar disorder for ten years untreated. I was not a very kind or affectionate person, but I wasn't usually mean. I was definitely odd. No one ever suggested to me that I needed help or tried to get me help, and I was only diagnosed after admitting myself to a hospital for being suicidal.

I guess the moral to the story is that your husband could be right...and he could be wrong. You'll never know unless you pursue the matter.