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panader0

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4. My dad and brother both suffered from dementia. It was not easy to watch them fade away.
Tue Feb 28, 2023, 10:14 AM
Feb 2023

They both ended up in facilities, shuffling down halls, doped up like zombies to calm them.
My brother used to beg me to help him escape. There was no way I could take care of him.
I believe (hope) that I take after my mother's side of the family, all sharp witted until the end.
I try to monitor myself to see if I'm still with it. So far, so good. But if I ever get the diagnosis
I'll be checking out. Suicide is far more desireable than dementia. A person with dementia needs
constant supervision, and most places don't really give it to you. My brother had VA care, and the
halls of his locked up place reeked of bodily waste and the patients are blank faced.
I just need a few more years of clarity to straighten up my affairs and I'm good to go.

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Dementia is the most frightening condition I can imagine Trueblue Texan Feb 2023 #1
Well said, Trueblue. erronis Feb 2023 #2
Excellently said, True. There was an article posted here on DU recently about niyad Feb 2023 #3
My dad and brother both suffered from dementia. It was not easy to watch them fade away. panader0 Feb 2023 #4
I agree with you exboyfil Feb 2023 #6
All of this! MontanaMama Feb 2023 #12
I was my mother's caregiver for 5 years AmBlue Feb 2023 #14
Yes and yes leighbythesea2 Feb 2023 #22
My sincere sympathies to you. AmBlue Mar 2023 #23
Thank you leighbythesea2 Mar 2023 #24
I admire my mom (78) exboyfil Feb 2023 #5
This country needs to get serious about healthcare, including long term care. area51 Feb 2023 #7
My father died with dementia in August. His last six months he spent near me JCMach1 Feb 2023 #8
"For those lacking adequate resources" Ferrets are Cool Feb 2023 #9
Indeed. The vast majority of Americans MontanaMama Feb 2023 #16
Sadly, this is true. Ferrets are Cool Feb 2023 #19
I have FTD just like Bruce Omaha Steve Feb 2023 #10
Picks Disease bpj62 Feb 2023 #11
I just started taking Lions mane mushrooms to help my brains health. flying_wahini Feb 2023 #13
I care for my husband. The great news is that it really hasn't effected his personality. He is MLAA Feb 2023 #15
That's a huge burden. MontanaMama Feb 2023 #17
Thanks for the kind words. I think it is easier for me than some. He is my favorite person on MLAA Feb 2023 #18
You and I are in the same boat. PlutosHeart Feb 2023 #20
It seems very wise to downsize to something more manageable with everything else on your plate. MLAA Feb 2023 #21
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