Okay folks

[matt819]

5. Thanks

Thanks for your kind words.

The questions raised are good ones, and here are the answers, to put this in perspective.

My wife is my age (late 50s if you must know, sheesh!). Post menopausal. I don't know what she, or other women, think about the loss of childbearing capacity, even though it is natural and long expected. Our youngest is in her early 20s, so those days are long behind.

I say early stage because at this point we don't know any more or any better. I understand that they are doing a hysterectomy and removing ovaries, cervix, and fallopian tubes, and that they will do the lab work to determine, first, what exactly it is/was and, second, to determine what stage it's in. Obviously, we hope it's early and that the surgery is all that's needed, i.e., no radiation/chemo.

We own our own business, and my wife is the breadwinner. I do the paperwork. Her incapacity is a very real concern, and while neither of us has spoken about this, it's a real concern that I don't think either of us has an answer to at the moment. Step at a time?

Points are taken re support groups, but she's not a support group kind of person. And the issue draws a chuckle based on a comment by my mother a few months ago. My father died in December at 85 years old. My mother is 83. We got to talking after the funeral about her maybe finding a support group of other seniors in the same boat. She laughed. She said the last thing she wanted to hear about was other people's problems. Hers aren't so bad, and those she has she has no desire to share with anyone. I think my wife has the same attitude. In any case, this is a "let's wait and see" issue.

We're in sort of a holding pattern for a bit, but stay tuned. And thanks for listening.