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SuzyandPuffpuff

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27. Yu did right

Reply to Ziggysmom (Original post)

Wed Feb 11, 2026, 08:00 PM

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Never second guess yourself. You did what Yu did at the time bcz circumstances directed Yu to do so. He knew you were with him and that's why he was able to let go. You did everything right. No regrets. For your own sanity... no regrets.

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Yes, it always seems so sudden. Figarosmom Wednesday #2

yes Skittles Wednesday #4

You need all your energy for you right now. I'm sure no one will be offended... 3catwoman3 Wednesday #3

I hope that you can be at peace. essaynnc Wednesday #5

This is not your fault Bayard Wednesday #6

I am so very sorry Ziggysmom, JMCKUSICK Wednesday #7

My deepest condolences, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope Wednesday #8

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It's hard not to feel guilty when you lose a loved one who depended are your care and judgement. Ilikepurple Wednesday #10

I am so sorry. It is not your fault. You did what should have been best for him; LoisB Wednesday #11

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Ziggysmom, you are not responsible. Prairie_Seagull Wednesday #13

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Sending you light and love Ziggysmom. mnhtnbb Wednesday #19

You did what you could with what was available. OldBaldy1701E Wednesday #20

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I am so sorry. Solly Mack Wednesday #22

Oh, Ziggysmom. I am so sorry for you and your husband. May the memories of your dear husband be a blessing to you. Love, debm55 Wednesday #23

Please say to yourself some_of_us_are_sane Wednesday #24

I thought I rsponded to you soon after you posted...but maybe it stayed in Preview and not posted... electric_blue68 Wednesday #25

I am very sorry. I cannot change how you feel about your role, but in my opinion you did everything I would have done. NNadir Wednesday #26

Yu did right SuzyandPuffpuff Wednesday #27

My deepest sympathy. Yes, see an attorney. sinkingfeeling Wednesday #28

Peace. cachukis Wednesday #29

You did nothing wrong Alice Kramden Wednesday #30

Most nursing homes are drastically underfunded PoindexterOglethorpe Wednesday #31

Memory care units are supposed to have more attentive care, not less, so please don't blame yourself. JudyM Thursday #32