Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

The DU Lounge

NNadir

(37,581 posts)

26. I am very sorry. I cannot change how you feel about your role, but in my opinion you did everything I would have done.

Reply to Ziggysmom (Original post)

Wed Feb 11, 2026, 07:59 PM

4 hrs ago

In my experience, when we lose someone we love, we have almost always done our best, but it never feels right, since it cannot feel right to lose someone we love.

I wish you peace.

Click here to purchase valentine hearts!

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

32 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

I feel responsible [View all] Ziggysmom Yesterday OP

honestly, I would get a lawyer Skittles Yesterday #1

Yes, it always seems so sudden. Figarosmom Yesterday #2

yes Skittles Yesterday #4

You need all your energy for you right now. I'm sure no one will be offended... 3catwoman3 Yesterday #3

I hope that you can be at peace. essaynnc 23 hrs ago #5

This is not your fault Bayard 23 hrs ago #6

I am so very sorry Ziggysmom, JMCKUSICK 23 hrs ago #7

My deepest condolences, Ziggysmom. HeartsCanHope 23 hrs ago #8

I wish we could all hug you, literally. Not just with words. calimary 23 hrs ago #9

It's hard not to feel guilty when you lose a loved one who depended are your care and judgement. Ilikepurple 23 hrs ago #10

I am so sorry. It is not your fault. You did what should have been best for him; LoisB 23 hrs ago #11

You are in our prayers RainCaster 23 hrs ago #12

Ziggysmom, you are not responsible. Prairie_Seagull 23 hrs ago #13

Holding you in love and light. Remember that your DU family is here niyad 22 hrs ago #14

My heart goes out to you stage left 22 hrs ago #15

Do not blame yourself, you did everything you could. Grumpy Old Guy 22 hrs ago #16

i'm so sorry this happened. orleans 21 hrs ago #17

Please allow yourself some grace. 10 Turtle Day 19 hrs ago #18

Sending you light and love Ziggysmom. mnhtnbb 18 hrs ago #19

You did what you could with what was available. OldBaldy1701E 16 hrs ago #20

🕯💙🌷 quaint 14 hrs ago #21

I am so sorry. Solly Mack 14 hrs ago #22

Oh, Ziggysmom. I am so sorry for you and your husband. May the memories of your dear husband be a blessing to you. Love, debm55 14 hrs ago #23

Please say to yourself some_of_us_are_sane 10 hrs ago #24

I thought I rsponded to you soon after you posted...but maybe it stayed in Preview and not posted... electric_blue68 4 hrs ago #25

I am very sorry. I cannot change how you feel about your role, but in my opinion you did everything I would have done. NNadir 4 hrs ago #26

Yu did right SuzyandPuffpuff 4 hrs ago #27

My deepest sympathy. Yes, see an attorney. sinkingfeeling 4 hrs ago #28

Peace. cachukis 4 hrs ago #29

You did nothing wrong Alice Kramden 4 hrs ago #30

Most nursing homes are drastically underfunded PoindexterOglethorpe 1 hr ago #31

Memory care units are supposed to have more attentive care, not less, so please don't blame yourself. JudyM 32 min ago #32