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hunter

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22. As a Jehovah's Witness I was supposed to ignore the holiday, much as I ignored the flag salute.
Mon Feb 13, 2023, 12:31 PM
Feb 2023

I don't really remember Valentines Day kindergarten through third grade. I lived in my own little autistic spectrum world then, mostly oblivious to the social world around me. But I do remember in fourth grade that the rule was you had to give valentines to everybody or nobody. No favorites. I wasn't the only kid who didn't bring store-bought valentines from home and I felt some kinship with them.

Some of my classmates, presumably those with more affluent parents, gave little boxes of candy hearts to everyone.

After my mom got booted out of the Witnesses Valentines day became less of a worry. My younger siblings would bring home their Valentine's Day loot without shame.

My middle and high school experience was so miserable Valentine's Day disappointments weren't even on my radar.

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Snacks and cards Tree-Hugger Feb 2023 #1
Yes, the last period of the day, parties. debm55 Feb 2023 #2
I believe that we bought cards, but like you, for everyone in the class. Chainfire Feb 2023 #3
Chainfire, I'm glad you got your Valentine. Did you every date her? debm55 Feb 2023 #5
I started dating her in the Fall of 1968, and I just got finished cooking her supper. ;) Chainfire Feb 2023 #8
Oh my, Chainfire, how wonderful________ debm55 Feb 2023 #9
It is and has been wonderful. If I cross the river Jordan tonight, I have nothing to whine about. Chainfire Feb 2023 #11
One memory I have in grade school XanaDUer2 Feb 2023 #4
Xana, I am so sorry that happened to you. We later had a school policy that everyone got a card from debm55 Feb 2023 #6
Thanks XanaDUer2 Feb 2023 #7
High school was awful for this Tree-Hugger Feb 2023 #10
When I was in High School the same thing happened to me. I was embarrassed as it was a flower that debm55 Feb 2023 #12
I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Feb 2023 #13
thank you Xana, for your hug. It hurt at the time. I don't know if High Schools still do the gift debm55 Feb 2023 #14
Awful and I hated it. 2naSalit Feb 2023 #15
I'm sorry they can turn into popularity contests. Sorry that happened to you. debm55 Feb 2023 #16
Oh... 2naSalit Feb 2023 #17
I'll let you in on something, even though I start these threads, My childhood was very, very abusive debm55 Feb 2023 #18
DU is a better social environment... 2naSalit Feb 2023 #19
In elementary school we passed cards around to wnylib Feb 2023 #20
I remember making cards for everybody, and maybe those heart candies sakabatou Feb 2023 #21
As a Jehovah's Witness I was supposed to ignore the holiday, much as I ignored the flag salute. hunter Feb 2023 #22
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