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wnylib

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20. In elementary school we passed cards around to
Mon Feb 13, 2023, 02:19 AM
Feb 2023

every one in class. They were little one "page" glossy cards in the shape of hearts. Our mothers bought them in packages of 25 or 30 at stationary stores or at discount stores like Grant's or Murphy's.

The cards had different sayings on them, like little candy hearts did: Be mine. My favorite Valentine. Will you be my Valentine? Happy Valentine's Day. Etc. We gave one out to every kid in class. I don't remember if that was a rule set by teachers or just the custom.

No school sponsored Valentine activities in junior and senior high. But kids who were paired off bought their own cards or gifts for their S.O.s.

There was one memorable Valentines day from high school. I'd been dating a guy off and on for a couple years. He was a college freshman when I was a high school junior. On Valentine's Day he proposed marriage and talked about running off to a state where we'd be old enough without parental consent. My first thought was, "I haven't even finished high school!" But I didn't say it. Actually, I was speechless. We had been getting more serious, but were not "going steady" at the time. He said to think it over a couple days before answering.

When he took me home, my mother met us at the door and said that someone was waiting for me. My boyfriend followed us into the kitchen where my uncle greeted me with a huge heart snapped box of chocolates before I could make introductions. He was my father's younger brother and also my godfather. He always bought me gifts for holidays and my birthday. He was married with 3 kids but looked younger than his age and was very good looking. I thanked him and gave him a hug.

At that point, the boyfriend clenched his fists and was visibly angry. He said he was not going to play second fiddle to anyone or be treated like a fool. When my mother and I realized his mistake, we started laughing and introduced my uncle/godfather.

Next day at school I learned that he had also proposed on Valentine's Day to a senior girl at my school that he had dated. But she was going to college the next year and told her friends (I overheard the conversation) that she would not marry until after college. So I thought, who was playing whom for a fool? When he picked me up a couple days later for my answer, I asked if that meant that the other girl had turned him down.

We went out once after that and then no more. Later I learned that he had been eager to marry someone, anyone, in order to avoid the draft because he was dropping out of college and would lose his draft deferment for Vietnam. So a few months after his double proposals, be got another girl pregnant and they married right away.


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Snacks and cards Tree-Hugger Feb 2023 #1
Yes, the last period of the day, parties. debm55 Feb 2023 #2
I believe that we bought cards, but like you, for everyone in the class. Chainfire Feb 2023 #3
Chainfire, I'm glad you got your Valentine. Did you every date her? debm55 Feb 2023 #5
I started dating her in the Fall of 1968, and I just got finished cooking her supper. ;) Chainfire Feb 2023 #8
Oh my, Chainfire, how wonderful________ debm55 Feb 2023 #9
It is and has been wonderful. If I cross the river Jordan tonight, I have nothing to whine about. Chainfire Feb 2023 #11
One memory I have in grade school XanaDUer2 Feb 2023 #4
Xana, I am so sorry that happened to you. We later had a school policy that everyone got a card from debm55 Feb 2023 #6
Thanks XanaDUer2 Feb 2023 #7
High school was awful for this Tree-Hugger Feb 2023 #10
When I was in High School the same thing happened to me. I was embarrassed as it was a flower that debm55 Feb 2023 #12
I'm sorry XanaDUer2 Feb 2023 #13
thank you Xana, for your hug. It hurt at the time. I don't know if High Schools still do the gift debm55 Feb 2023 #14
Awful and I hated it. 2naSalit Feb 2023 #15
I'm sorry they can turn into popularity contests. Sorry that happened to you. debm55 Feb 2023 #16
Oh... 2naSalit Feb 2023 #17
I'll let you in on something, even though I start these threads, My childhood was very, very abusive debm55 Feb 2023 #18
DU is a better social environment... 2naSalit Feb 2023 #19
In elementary school we passed cards around to wnylib Feb 2023 #20
I remember making cards for everybody, and maybe those heart candies sakabatou Feb 2023 #21
As a Jehovah's Witness I was supposed to ignore the holiday, much as I ignored the flag salute. hunter Feb 2023 #22
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