George Takei Accused of Sexually Assaulting Former Model in 1981

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93. The drink/drug count does not matter....

And why should it? I would like to think even if I had a hard day and was tired, and fell asleep at someone's apartment, I would not wake up being molested.

I do not want anyone questioning me about how much I had to drink or what kind of drugs I took for any of my rapes. It does not matter. I can go in the middle of a club, strip down, and fall asleep, and that is not permission for anyone to touch me, let alone rape me!

It is thinking like yours that is a danger to future possible rape victims and people, like me, who are survivors.

Most people who are raped or molested never report it and who are you to judge why we do not? And, for your information, attitudes like yours is the reason I never reported my rape. I never wanted to be raped a second time by people's attitudes about whether I was stoned, drunk etc....Rape is rape. Molestation and assault are the same.

Years ago I was called for jury duty. I really did plan on serving and did not realize the hostile feelings I had for our justice system. I stood up when I was called. They asked if I felt I could be neutral and judge the case on the testimony and evidence. I said no. I stood in front of a courtroom of strangers and recounted I had been raped several times but never reported it because of the court system and how they try the survivors. I recounted how Justice Souter took time out of a rape trial to ask the girl what she was wearing. I trembled talking about how the justice system makes a mockery out of victims and how I would never come forward and I would never encourage anyone else to do so. I asked how I could trust a justice system that does that. I ended by saying shame on all of them. They excused me from duty.

Yeah, sit there and just survivors. It must be nice when you do not have to deal with multiple rapes or molestations. When you do not feel the shame of society and bear its brunt on you as they judge that you should have done this or that DURING the incident and then they judge you, like you are, after the incident and how you handled it.

No one wants to be raped or assaulted. And if you are awake during the rape/assault, something takes over, at times, that professionals call TI or Tonic Immobility. It is the inability of the survivor to do anything except basically lay there. That is a simplification but for someone who is as judgmental as your are about the way someone handles a deep personal crisis, it will have to do. Fortunately, this guy says he felt he could walk away and did not freeze up as some victims tend to do.

it is hard enough for the average person to come forward against another average person and you think a guy being taken advantage of should have come forward.

When you have not been assaulted, or handled it the way you feel it should have been handled, it is easy to judge others. You do not know what someone has gone through until you are exactly in their shoes with what they have bee through in the past.

Stop judging, it is insulting and offensive. What he wore, what he drank, how tired he was, all of this does not matter. If someone has passed out, or fallen asleep, they have a right to expect they will wake up the same way they went to sleep. Passing out is not giving consent.