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KitSileya

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14. It is very common for men not to do any emotional labor.

Sun Dec 6, 2015, 07:51 AM

Dec 2015

It's one of the main reasons men don't live as long as women, I feel. Doing emotional labor (making sure socializing happens, remembering birthdays etc, listening without judging, and so on) is seen as women's work, and consequently is devalued by our patriarchal society. It means that men who lose their wives, either through death or divorce, tend not to do it. Hence the decrease of their social circle - who wants to be friends with someone who never reciprocates?

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