Should DU be an English Only site?

[yuiyoshida]

308. "I'd be sitting there wondering if they were saying something bad about me or something,"

This is the heart of it isn't it. I do have Vietnamese and Chinese friends who talk with their friends in their respective languages and I don't freak out about this... why is it you and many people do. YOU SEEM TO HAVE THIS Obsession that all the conversations are all about you. Why is that?

I can't tell you how many chat rooms I have gone into with my Asian friends and we talk in Japanese, and people in the room freak the hell out ..thinking WE MUST BE TALKING ABOUT THEM. ...WHY ELSE WOULD SOMEONE SPEAK IN ANOTHER LANGUAGE...BUT TO GO IN TO A ROOM AND SECRETLY LAUGH AND SNICKER ABOUT THE SILLY PEOPLE WHO DON'T SPEAK OUR LANGUAGE.

WHERE does this paranoia come from?? Because none of my Asian friends have this feeling. We just back out of the conversation and do other things while our friends comfortably talk about stuff in their lives in Indonesian or whatever... BUT THE REASON ITS RUDE TO you is because you think it must be about you.


You said : "I'd probably call them that word I was just telling you about that I'll never utter here at DU and walk out on them... " And why would you use an inflammatory word, like what it probably is. Would it make you feel better to call them that word. Its like the other day I was in a chat room and someone called me a "Chink" Now I tried to explain to him that "Chink" was an inflammatory push at Chinese people, and that I was Japanese... did he call me a "Jap" or "Nip"? NO.... HE JUST SAID, "Y'ALL LOOK A LIKE TO ME" I am sure it made him feel better to say that... and He probably didn't think about it later..and say..."Gee, I probably shouldn't have said that to that lady, oh well...she will get over it"

Why is it that many of those sexually attracted to me come up with the thing.."Well I never had an Asian before, all y'all are so exotic" I dated a few people who admitted me they dated me because i was Asian... I don't know, maybe they were curious if I had my lady bits in the same place as other girls, and YES WE DO. LIKE MY EX GIRL FRIEND KISSED ME ONCE AND SAID, "OOH you taste like wasabi". Why? Because I am Japanese? I hadn't had anything Wasabi flavored in a about two weeks. Why didn't she say I tasted like water melon, or candy canes.... she had to use Wasabi. Did she think that was the only flavor I could understand. And, why did it shock her when I told her I like Mexican food. Is there some kinda taboo that Asians can't like anything but Egg Foo Young?

wow... really.