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moniss

(9,067 posts)
63. Yes I believe that for weddings and especially funerals
Thu Mar 5, 2026, 01:16 PM
Mar 5

that you show respect by how you come dressed. A funeral parlor visitation is a little different and I will be more relaxed in my feeling about that. But in a funeral setting this is the most serious and solemn moment and I believe people should reflect that in how they dress.

I don't mind if people come to a fine dining establishment in slacks, collared shirt and jacket with dress shoes but I'm not into the jeans, t-shirt, jacket and tennis shoes thing. If they want to sit at the country club bar or restaurant after a round of golf dressed like that then fine. But not at fine dining. Also too many people think of Texas Road House or some other chain steak house as fine dining but they're not. Casual for those places is fine. In fact one would probably be overdressed really if you went to that sort of place in a suit and tie.

I don't go to those places because I can't take the noise and I'm not into the "conveyor" belt approach to food and customers. The places I prefer are the ones where I have actual chefs and cooks rather than "preparers and assemblers". I don't dine out anymore but I used to seek out and go to places where I could ask for a dish prepared a certain way that wasn't "on the menu" per se but I knew the kitchen had everything they needed. I was more than content to wait for however long it took and to pay the price. I tipped very, very well and the staff and ownership/management would come to introduce themselves and we would get to know each other.

I did this even at more casual dining like Sicilian restaurants etc. It was wonderful to have relationships like this with restaurants and I always got a great table, great service and great food. Chefs and cooks would come from the kitchen and sit and converse about how I liked various things prepared and we would chat about recipes etc.

It made "going out" a real occasion for me and the staff at the restaurants knew this would be an enjoyable customer to have and I knew it was mutual.

Some restaurants rebuffed me and didn't want this kind of customer but that's fine too. I'm not just another number and I want restaurants, chefs, cooks and owners/management that are comfortable with customers that are unique and are really into the whole experience. I'm not the 30-40 minute and gone conveyor belt type as so many restaurants desire to "program" themselves" for maximum "turn" of the house.

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Fetterman isn't well. sop Mar 4 #2
He is mentally ill. Trueblue1968 Mar 4 #22
Cognitive Deficiency Club Bmoboy Mar 4 #3
Lindsay Graham JBTaurus83 Mar 4 #4
"...full-throated support..." MorbidButterflyTat Mar 4 #5
"full throated" UpInArms Mar 4 #30
A throat full Traildogbob Mar 4 #51
His throat is full of his voice. Blame Keats. Ilikepurple Mar 4 #31
Maybe a body part JBTaurus83 Mar 4 #33
He's becoming less and less inhibited. Ilsa Mar 4 #6
He dresses like he's going to Walmart on Black Friday PatSeg Mar 4 #29
ITA. I think it is disrespectful to the Ilsa Mar 4 #49
I don't understand it either PatSeg Mar 5 #56
I remember visiting the Capitol on my own around Ilsa Mar 5 #59
Yes, I think the institution PatSeg Mar 5 #62
Fine dining places, supper clubs etc. moniss Mar 4 #52
The quintessential Ugly American PatSeg Mar 5 #58
Yes I believe that for weddings and especially funerals moniss Mar 5 #63
I don't dine out anymore either PatSeg Mar 5 #64
I do miss very much when "going out" meant moniss Mar 5 #65
Over the years, I began to look for opportunities PatSeg Mar 5 #66
My Senator is not right in the head. I am ashamed to have voted for him debm55 Mar 4 #7
The other choice was Mehmet Oz. No shame in voiting "D". JustABozoOnThisBus Mar 4 #8
No I meant to say I should have primaried him with C.Lamb. I would never vote for Oz. debm55 Mar 4 #13
This message was self-deleted by its author PeaceWave Mar 5 #55
Can the 25th Amendment apply to senators? Wednesdays Mar 4 #9
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Senator Whip-poor-will Mar 4 #41
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Killing, killing, killing until they are all gone. Irish_Dem Mar 4 #15
That's not even human Autumn Mar 4 #17
Not even a proper sentence. ramblings... Amaryllis Mar 4 #26
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The words of a psychopath. BlueTsunami2018 Mar 4 #27
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