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Layzeebeaver

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4. It's not wrong to ask, but...

Mon Feb 16, 2026, 10:47 AM

23 hrs ago

It’s not the one question to prioritise answering.

Especially in such general terms. The specific answer is unique to each victims story and experience.

Such questions can ~~sometimes~~ often be construed as blame sharing between perpetrators and victims (like this… “sure Epstein sexually abused a lot of girls BUT where were the parents??!!??” Which infers that only if the parents had done something then this would have never happened. I call bullshit on that.

I’m not an expect in victims rights or trauma but my recommendation would be to tread carefully.

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Regarding the Epstein victims, [View all] babylonsister 23 hrs ago OP

That's the wrong question to ask, gab13by13 23 hrs ago #1

It's not wrong to ask, but... Layzeebeaver 23 hrs ago #4

I suspect it involved all kinds of things - the most common thing I have personally walkingman 23 hrs ago #2

who were never legit lapfog_1 22 hrs ago #6

Misogyny is systemic n/t leftstreet 23 hrs ago #3

I've wondered the same... MiHale 23 hrs ago #5

I imagine that's a possibility we would not have babylonsister 21 hrs ago #14

you have too high an opinion of parents. mopinko 22 hrs ago #7

I had great role models in my parents babylonsister 22 hrs ago #8

It is not the wrong question to ask Grim Chieftain 21 hrs ago #9

Reactionary and misguided Cirsium 21 hrs ago #11

Thanks. Nothing like being attacked here for babylonsister 21 hrs ago #13

You did nothing wrong Grim Chieftain 21 hrs ago #15

i'm the 6th of 7. i had a feral childhood. mopinko 21 hrs ago #18

Seriously? Cirsium 21 hrs ago #10

I'm not blaming their parents; maybe you need babylonsister 21 hrs ago #12

OK Cirsium 21 hrs ago #17

Thank you-that is the kind of info I was wondering about. babylonsister 16 hrs ago #22

Sorry if I overreacted Cirsium 15 hrs ago #23

Complex, because there was a power dynamic involved haele 21 hrs ago #16

There's nothing odd about it. hunter 20 hrs ago #19

You are only missing how many parents don't give a shit what happens to their girls. Maru Kitteh 20 hrs ago #20

I'll give you the Occam's Razor explanation, the goal here being to grant some of the parents a bit of largesse AZJonnie 16 hrs ago #21