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usonian

(25,794 posts)
7. Be truthful AND good to yourself.
Thu Nov 20, 2025, 06:52 PM
Nov 2025

When my Mom would visit from the opposite coast, we'd have Thanksgiving dinner at some nice local restaurant.

If you're short of money, I am sure good folks here will find a way to send you some (The anonymity makes it harder)

OR, if you're up to it, how about helping at a mission?

https://www.feedingamerica.org/take-action/volunteer/thanksgiving

Soup Kitchens, Food, Pantries, Food Banks
https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/foodbanks/

https://www.idealist.org/volunteer-on-thanksgiving

https://www.operationturkey.com/volunteer/

https://www.purewow.com/family/where-to-volunteer-on-thanksgiving

There are some follow-up ideas in an OP I wrote, in case people get stuck and need a cheat sheet of comebacks.
I recommend getting the hell out of Dodge anyway.
https://www.democraticunderground.com/100220807220

I'm in Central California in the foothills, probably too far, or I'd invite. Daughter an Son In Law will pass through here (YAY) next week (so I gotta clean up)

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I vote for you to leave town for friends if possible transportation wise and budget wise... wcmagumba Nov 2025 #1
OMG. I'm sorry. All I can suggest is 100% noise-cancelling headphones (and maybe some beta-blockers) hlthe2b Nov 2025 #2
Unless BOTH sides are unable to refrain from talking politics, it is best to make plans to be patricia92243 Nov 2025 #3
Thanks for the response. UniqueUserName Nov 2025 #8
Addressing your misgiving... Chemical Bill Nov 2025 #23
Stay home. you are going to ruin everybody else holiday. I certainly would not want a guest that patricia92243 Nov 2025 #24
Why are you more concerned about MAGA having a pleasant Thanksgiving than the 66,000 people wrongfully interned? UniqueUserName Nov 2025 #25
Go out of town. mercuryblues Nov 2025 #4
Bring over a nice arrangement of flowers before you leave, stay for some coffee and brief chit chat and then DRIVE AWAY Bread and Circuses Nov 2025 #5
Agree FHRRK Nov 2025 #9
Skip the MAGA family IbogaProject Nov 2025 #6
Be truthful AND good to yourself. usonian Nov 2025 #7
Thank you. I like your suggestions. UniqueUserName Nov 2025 #10
I had forgotten my cheat sheet. Thanks! usonian Nov 2025 #14
Here's a different approach.... nocoincidences Nov 2025 #11
I would go and be nice womanofthehills Nov 2025 #12
You make it sound like WE'RE the "not nice" ones Arazi Nov 2025 #16
Totally agree Raine Nov 2025 #17
"Sorry. I have other plans." Iggo Nov 2025 #13
Careful. There's a contingent here who love to scold anyone shunning MAGAt relatives on holidays Arazi Nov 2025 #15
my "humorous" suggestion: ret5hd Nov 2025 #18
''Maybe Thanksgiving isn't the proper time to confront people.'' Xavier Breath Nov 2025 #19
Be with the people you are comfortable with. NameAlreadyTaken Nov 2025 #20
Out of town. Go to someplace you always wanted to go. haele Nov 2025 #21
I thankfully have no MAGA relatives (close ones) living any longer. They've aged out and died. mucholderthandirt Nov 2025 #22
It's YOUR holiday. Do what makes YOU happy. SheltieLover Nov 2025 #26
Do what you want. Personally, hanging with good friends Phoenix61 Nov 2025 #27
Take Leslie with you! davsand Nov 2025 #28
This is such a difficult situation to be in. I honestly don't think there is any right or wrong when Joinfortmill Nov 2025 #29
Your Last Two Sentences Express The Conundrum.... ColoringFool Nov 2025 #30
visit San Francisco over the holidays DBoon Nov 2025 #31
See if you can volunteer somewhere to help feed some people that would appreciate it. dem4decades Nov 2025 #32
Another vote for going away. OnionPatch Nov 2025 #33
Why choose to suffer? buzzycrumbhunger Nov 2025 #34
go to the dinner tmars505 Nov 2025 #35
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