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yardwork

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10. I'm really sorry this is happening to you.

Thu Oct 16, 2025, 08:40 AM

Oct 16

Along with sharing the name and website of the museum, I would also point out, very calmly, that if you were a racist it is hardly likely that you would have made a trip to visit this museum.

During the HR meeting I suggest being very calm and pleasant. Say that you understand that whomever reported you just wanted to make sure it is a fair and unbiased workplace. Say you appreciate working in a place that cares about its employees, and that you appreciate the opportunity to explain. Keep the mood light and pleasant.

Then, after the meeting, quietly try to find out whoever reported you and avoid them from now on. Don't sit near them in the lunchroom. Avoid being alone with them. Despite what you say to HR, that coworker is not to be trusted.

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I was reported to HR for using the word Negro in a perfectly appropriate context [View all] tcfrogs Oct 16 OP

Show HR the online site that no_hypocrisy Oct 16 #1

Precisely this - it's the name of the museum hatrack Oct 16 #2

Difficult to tell anymore tcfrogs Oct 16 #6

Way ahead of you tcfrogs Oct 16 #3

Print out a hard copy and hand it to them. Hopefully the meeting lasts 2 minutes. TheRickles Oct 16 #9

No. Print out 3 copies - ms liberty Oct 16 #13

Exactly.. mountain grammy Oct 16 #23

Or post it on the company bulletin board, assuming you have one...nt Wounded Bear Oct 16 #34

The offended person would probably consider that harassment. LisaM Oct 16 #108

HR can show it to her, that is the point. ms liberty Oct 16 #109

and at SOME point demand an apology.... democratsruletheday Oct 16 #14

this!!! Celerity Oct 16 #35

Use uninformed delicate flower Aviation Pro Oct 16 #41

When I was in high school, back in the Bronze Age, a very naive and foolishly 'helpful' classmate Attilatheblond Oct 16 #53

I guarantee that student grew up and voted for Trump three times. yardwork Oct 16 #58

This was in Orange County, Ca, and her family were rigerous about their 'traditional bible' church attendence Attilatheblond Oct 16 #63

Your post brought back unpleasant memories of that type of "sweet" girl. yardwork Oct 16 #64

Would biracials be chocolate marshmellows? flor-de-jasmim Oct 16 #77

LOL Throw in a couple Hispanics and ya got s'mores! Attilatheblond Oct 16 #80

i hate these people who go behind my back and whine to someone else and dont apologise to me AllaN01Bear Oct 16 #65

How would they feel BonnieJW Oct 16 #72

It is our history Bluetus Oct 16 #69

I knew someone who got in trouble for saying, "frijoles negros." FSogol Oct 16 #4

No way John Coktosten Oct 16 #21

They Voted For Cantaloupe Caligula The Corpulent... GB_RN Oct 16 #26

Haha John Coktosten Oct 16 #27

Thanks! GB_RN Oct 16 #31

Having someone get offended when you say "frijoles negros" is the least of your worries today whopis01 Oct 16 #29

I went to a dentist years ago who was a MAGA type. He was whining about all the 'illegals' travelingthrulife Oct 16 #42

Goes to show you stupid people can get advanced degrees. nt Wednesdays Oct 16 #73

It's a furrin' language. CanonRay Oct 16 #66

There should be no problem, as long as they pronounce it "NAY-gross" JustABozoOnThisBus Oct 16 #37

OK, here's what I'd do. ananda Oct 16 #5

It Was The Name Of The League! ProfessorGAC Oct 16 #7

Even as recently as the early 1970's tcfrogs Oct 16 #8

This is ForgedCrank Oct 16 #12

Yes - exactly. And it won't end anytime soon. whopis01 Oct 16 #33

The color Black in Spanish is Negro (soft e like Negative, not hard e like Knee) ... aggiesal Oct 16 #46

Exactly, it's pronounced "nehgro" neh as in meh with a slight roll to the gr ms liberty Oct 16 #87

I'm really sorry this is happening to you. yardwork Oct 16 #10

I would want HR to formally educate the snitch Tanuki Oct 16 #68

Any escalation will probably hurt the OP more. yardwork Oct 16 #81

I met W James Cobbin while doing a job at his museum in Youngstown Orrex Oct 16 #11

Continue to tell the story as it happened. barbtries Oct 16 #15

I would tell the that, since this is an issue, all employees need to have a list created. OldBaldy1701E Oct 16 #16

Or make it fun. Ask them to google "Geddy Lee and baseball" ms liberty Oct 16 #17

Get the friend you were chatting to to confirm, either to the HR person or in writing, that it was the museum name muriel_volestrangler Oct 16 #18

Attorney - Get An Attorney Now - You're Being Targeted And Attacked MayReasonRule Oct 16 #19

Geddy Lee Tadams01KC Oct 16 #20

How old is the person who complained about this? 3catwoman3 Oct 16 #38

Wow. I would be giddy about that, particularly now ms liberty Oct 16 #97

Interesting FHRRK Oct 16 #22

Just tell them you didn't realize a trip to KC was so controversial. xmas74 Oct 16 #24

For God's sake, don't tell them what NAACP stands for. nt chowmama Oct 16 #25

I was just thinking the same thing. So silly Callie1979 Oct 16 #43

National Association for the Advancement of Colored People ... aggiesal Oct 16 #57

The implication is that the person who got yorkster Oct 16 #70

Similar, because referring to a black person as "colored" is generally unacceptable in the same way "negro" is. nt thesquanderer Oct 16 #71

On top of all that, Black people actually perferred to be called Black. (This is based on the movie Red Tails) ... aggiesal Oct 16 #92

Depends though Mosby Oct 16 #96

Give them a link to the Negro Leagues malaise Oct 16 #28

Have a screen shot of their website with the title and logo of the museum JT45242 Oct 16 #30

I was reported for using "SNAFU" in an email Ponietz Oct 16 #32

Situation Normal, all fouled up... Wounded Bear Oct 16 #36

Wait til they learn "niggardly" kiri Oct 16 #39

I have stopped using that word because it's too easily misunderstood. yardwork Oct 16 #47

Years ago I used the word "niggardly" during a meeting to describe a low-ball settlement offer. sop Oct 16 #105

Ask if you should stop donating ... JustABozoOnThisBus Oct 16 #40

Ask for a copy of the company policy that forbids the word n/t Shrek Oct 16 #44

Poor HR gulliver Oct 16 #45

I agree that the lying snitch is not to be trusted. yardwork Oct 16 #49

THIS is the kind of nonsense the RW loves to point out. Callie1979 Oct 16 #48

The RW causes this kind of situation more often than not. yardwork Oct 16 #51

You might keep your mind open to the possibility.... 70sEraVet Oct 16 #50

Snitching to HR is never a good faith move. yardwork Oct 16 #54

I guess I always worked for smaller companies. 70sEraVet Oct 16 #67

Lie down on the floor, kick your feet, rip your clothes, and cry like a baby. hay rick Oct 16 #52

Whatever happens, please tell us about the outcome rurallib Oct 16 #55

My husband and I attended a function several years ago at this museum. mommymarine2003 Oct 16 #56

Many moons ago, a member of the Nixon Whitehouse 3Hotdogs Oct 16 #59

it was preferred by my community in my own time bigtree Oct 16 #60

Ignorance angrychair Oct 16 #61

Taken out of context "Negro" is colonial stollen Oct 16 #62

It sounds like you have an overactive co-worker. hamsterjill Oct 16 #74

Sounds like you have an Ass Kissing Republican coworker. Emile Oct 16 #75

I would definitely insist on an apology Grim Chieftain Oct 16 #76

I would just insist that they never get to mention it again. Iggo Oct 16 #88

Simple - Have the website of the Negro Leagues Baseball Museum cued up on your phone. flashman13 Oct 16 #78

examples DAML Oct 16 #79

I remember their commercials from Saturday morning cartoons questionseverything Oct 16 #106

Sort of on-topic but not really Shrek Oct 16 #82

That's funny. I was reported here for something kind of like that (but not really.) Iggo Oct 16 #83

Outrage Factory hard at work at your place of employment. n/t flvegan Oct 16 #84

Counterclaim that the displayed denial of a named business denotes a racism against blacks. Festivito Oct 16 #85

Go to the web SocialDemocrat61 Oct 16 #86

Several years ago when I was still working, I was miffed about something that happened. MIButterfly Oct 16 #89

The complainant was malicious Bobstandard Oct 16 #90

There are no facts, only interpretations. Nietzsche Ping Tung Oct 16 #91

Ask everyone at the meeting if they know what NAACP stands for. johnp3907 Oct 16 #93

Cool story. Mosby Oct 16 #94

There seems to be some confusion in this thread. And... LAS14 Oct 16 #95

Cool story! Mysterian Oct 16 #98

What a cool story! obamanut2012 Oct 16 #99

I am so tired of stupid people who can't mind their own d*** business FoxNewsSucks Oct 16 #100

Get a lawyer, get a lawyer, document everything, get a lawyer, and document everything. unblock Oct 16 #101

is there an official record of this, er, UTTER NONSENSE Skittles Oct 16 #102

Show up with an attorney. Just like talking to the cops. Hotler Oct 16 #103

That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. It was called the Negro League and is still called the Negro League. Vinca Oct 16 #104

People are idiots. I don't miss the days of someone mishearing something that was not said to them. dem4decades Oct 16 #107

My company's HR, now called "People", is the most overhead-iest of all overhead... Mark.b2 Oct 16 #110