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LuckyCharms

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5. I've done things like this before.

Sun Sep 28, 2025, 06:48 PM

Sep 28

And I've been admonished and criticized for it.

Listen...you have nothing to feel guilty about.

You did a good thing. You should be proud instead of feeling guilty.

Your son and step-son will never suffer by the fact that you gave someone $100.

You're not taking food out of their mouths because you were kind and generous to someone in need.

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So why do I feel guilty? [View all] 1monster Sep 28 OP

Impulsive good deeds are the best kind I think. Irish_Dem Sep 28 #1

You did good,1monster. sheshe2 Sep 28 #2

A nice gesture snowybirdie Sep 28 #3

Giving kcoates Sep 28 #4

I've done things like this before. LuckyCharms Sep 28 #5

Thank you. 1monster Sep 28 #6

Inner voice giveth and inner voice taketh away. Moral: don't listen to inner voices Bernardo de La Paz Sep 28 #7

I guess most of us have some form of PTSD... 1monster Sep 28 #11

Some therapists make a distinction between inner critic (attacking) and inner voice (supportive) Bernardo de La Paz Sep 28 #18

I don't know any women who don't 2nd guess themselves. 1WorldHope Sep 28 #8

So I guess that is the real question... why do we 1monster Sep 28 #12

It is a useful internal function that easily gets out of hand, like a million things like say vehicle maintenance Bernardo de La Paz Sep 28 #22

Regarding, "So the question is" .. So we are easier for the patriarchy to control. 1WorldHope Sep 28 #36

I'm guessing it's mostly pure habit. soldierant Sep 28 #51

You did something nice malaise Sep 28 #9

Ultimately the bottom line both about the action and how to deal with it. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Sep 28 #23

This always helps me quiet that mini mean me in my head pat_k Sep 28 #10

You did a nice thing Wifes husband Sep 28 #13

Short answer usonian Sep 28 #14

You did a nice thing. TomSlick Sep 28 #15

You did good. You made the world a little better today Jerry2144 Sep 28 #16

We live in a society that is performative: Raven123 Sep 28 #17

Can you imagine the joy you gave that woman? PittBlue Sep 28 #19

Feeling good because you do good... viva la Sep 28 #20

You did good kid. Don't let those voices dilute your good deed. patphil Sep 28 #21

Please forgive me for my slant on this, JMCKUSICK Sep 28 #24

Honestly, when I see homeless people, I don't 1monster Sep 28 #54

Thank you for not taking my post negatively. JMCKUSICK Sep 28 #59

I've known some street folks who, with a little help, turned their lives around... 70sEraVet Sep 28 #25

This is what I do Tom Dyer Sep 28 #26

You are a wise person to know all of those sides to yourself. mjvpi Sep 28 #27

You did good. Don't let Republican voices take over your head and claim you applegrove Sep 28 #28

Money comes and money goes and money comes again. colorado_ufo Sep 28 #29

My own philosophy was Warpy Sep 28 #30

You did something nice for someone! cate94 Sep 28 #31

A really fine thing for you to do for someone you don't even know. I do have a suggestion, tho.. Deuxcents Sep 28 #32

1monster came from a book I read many, many years ago... 1monster Sep 28 #55

Perhaps she needed it more Keepthesoulalive Sep 28 #33

You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. You saw a beautiful rainbow, niyad Sep 28 #34

Forgive yourself ZDU Sep 28 #35

May your generous act come back to you 100 fold! sprinkleeninow Sep 28 #37

You will realize a benefit for your generosity. Mblaze Sep 28 #38

The way you describe it, Glorious bastard Sep 28 #39

As someone who once relied on the kindness of a stranger berniesandersmittens Sep 28 #40

Socks are damned expensive these days... 1monster Sep 28 #56

It made you feel good and it made her feel good. StarryNite Sep 28 #41

Don't feel guilty Glen Livid Sep 28 #42

A favorite line I have used for myself and often say to others... llmart Sep 28 #53

MOST OF US -- in fact, all but a very few of us . . . AverageOldGuy Sep 28 #43

Don't let that sour voice overwhelm your goodness Easterncedar Sep 28 #44

You did what you thought was right IbogaProject Sep 28 #45

Think of it as a deposit to the Karma Bank moonbeam23 Sep 28 #46

Doing something nice for someone else is a very selfish act tavernier Sep 28 #47

I think you have a very healthy and active conscience. SleeplessinSoCal Sep 28 #48

I remember the day I closed on buying my first house... Tommy Carcetti Sep 28 #49

December 28, 2020 mnhtnbb Sep 28 #50

Why are you so mean to yourself? Because patriarchal society tells women niyad Sep 28 #52

Those inner voices can be serious assholes. Maru Kitteh Sep 28 #57

When someone who doesn't have a lot GIVES, it is truly a beautiful thing. hamsterjill Sep 28 #58

No act of kindness is ever wasted BWdem4life Sep 29 #60

Poverty is generous KentuckyWoman Sep 29 #61

Its called, "Pay It Forward" Bayard Sep 29 #62

You did good. MuseRider Sep 30 #63