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Pausan

(11 posts)
21. It's A Tough One, And One That Many Of Us Will Deal With In Our Own Lives...
Tue Apr 18, 2023, 09:06 PM
Apr 2023

I can only speak from my experience with my own mother.

About 10+ years ago in her late 70s/early 80's she got lost driving herself to her hair appointment. An appointment in her neighborhood where she had driven herself before many times.

She informed my sisters and I that she was going to give up her drivers license and stop driving. She thought she was becoming dangerous.

We chalked it up to old age and the onset of dementia. Little did we know that she was on the path to 7th Stage Alzheimer's disease.

We drove her where she needed to go, and thought that the driving issue was behind us.

Several years later, she wanted to go to a place that no longer existed. We told her what was going on, and it made her frustrated and angry. She denied what we were telling her, and informed us that we could piss-off and she would just drive herself there no matter what we thought. She couldn't find her keys... we had taken them for keeps.

When we told her that SHE had told us not to let her drive anymore, she accused us of lying. When we told her that she did not have a valid driver's license or insurance, and that if she got pulled over she might be arrested, she broke down crying.

In our family's experience, there was a point where she realized her limitations and wanted the best for everyone concerned.

And then there came a point where she didn't anymore.

It's heart-breaking to witness, and I don't wish it on anyone.

But there comes a time where reality smacks you right in the face.

Peace

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Charles Pierce can kiss my ass, RandySF Apr 2023 #1
We need to face the fact that we have quite a few elderly senators. Irish_Dem Apr 2023 #2
This message was self-deleted by its author Marcus IM Apr 2023 #3
Are you saying supporting Democratic priorities is less valid than supporting a Democratic Senator? Nevilledog Apr 2023 #6
No. I am asking a question about what factors are used in alerts and juries. Marcus IM Apr 2023 #8
Gotcha! Nevilledog Apr 2023 #14
Beware of sensitive toes in the "random" jury system MarcA Apr 2023 #27
Good Question! MOMFUDSKI Apr 2023 #12
Odd definition of "bashing" Effete Snob Apr 2023 #7
That's exactly what I thought when I have had posts removed for bashing. Marcus IM Apr 2023 #9
The post is actually more in line with SUPPORTING Democrats f_townsend Apr 2023 #10
He's right. Dem refusal to play hardball is why we have so many right wing idealogues on our courts. LonePirate Apr 2023 #4
REALLY THIS 👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻 LenaBaby61 Apr 2023 #5
+2 Celerity Apr 2023 #25
How many of Biden's nominations would Feinstein support. n/t MarcA Apr 2023 #28
All of them. Judges don't receive votes if they are going to fail. LonePirate Apr 2023 #29
Even if Feinstein resigns and new Senator named... Wishful-Thinking Apr 2023 #11
Why? She's in the Senate iemanja Apr 2023 #17
Committee appointments are approved by the whole Senate. tritsofme Apr 2023 #22
Yes, Feinstein's replacement wouldn't get her Committee Phoenix61 Apr 2023 #24
What's worse than not making the case for Feinstein to resign Tom Rinaldo Apr 2023 #13
We don't even know IF she can make the decision. Nevilledog Apr 2023 #15
Laughable hogwash FBaggins Apr 2023 #16
I don't agree that protecting a Senator who is physically unable to do her job iemanja Apr 2023 #18
It's almost as if they're being paid to lose. NotVeryImportant Apr 2023 #19
They're supposed to do what's best for the country. Karadeniz Apr 2023 #20
It's A Tough One, And One That Many Of Us Will Deal With In Our Own Lives... Pausan Apr 2023 #21
The regular pattern whenever a colleague has troubles is to publicly express Hortensis Apr 2023 #23
Feinstein deserves the opportunity to make a full recovery before being jostled out of office. MrsCoffee Apr 2023 #26
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