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FakeNoose

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43. I'm sure you have many, many happy memories of her and the both of you

Fri Jan 20, 2023, 09:16 PM

Jan 2023

Think of this time now - not as a loss, but as a temporary separation.

It's hard being without your beloved wife, but remember the happy times.
Look forward to seeing her again beyond the Rainbow Bridge.

DU has a support group for members who have lost a loved one and would like to participate in discussions.
Here's the link: https://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=forum&id=1234

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I don't usually share stuff like this but... [View all] dajoki Jan 2023 OP

Share your feelings... Cracklin Charlie Jan 2023 #1

Thank you dajoki Jan 2023 #17

I'm so sorry dajoki. It definitely helps to talk about those whom we loved and lost. skylucy Jan 2023 #2

Yes it does... dajoki Jan 2023 #21

Am sooooooooooooooooooooo sorry dajoki. a kennedy Jan 2023 #3

I'm so very sorry, dajoki. Come here to talk about her anytime. hlthe2b Jan 2023 #4

Thank you so much... dajoki Jan 2023 #15

I hope you find peace in your heart ornotna Jan 2023 #5

Peace and love to you and yours. SYFROYH Jan 2023 #6

I'm so sorry. I'm sending you a big hug! 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2023 #7

Many people here know and feel your pain. Grief is a very lonely Raven Jan 2023 #8

Thank you for sharing this -- it is hard Lettuce Be Jan 2023 #9

My dear dajoki . . . CaliforniaPeggy Jan 2023 #10

Thank you for that, it is appreciated.❤️ dajoki Jan 2023 #23

After my husband died... chillfactor Jan 2023 #11

So very sorry for your loss.. Peacetrain Jan 2023 #12

So sad. But you wife would want you to be happy. LakeArenal Jan 2023 #13

Wonderful! And, if you can, do the things that would make her happy MerryHolidays Jan 2023 #70

You are doing the right thing to connect to your support group. Irish_Dem Jan 2023 #14

I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Jan 2023 #16

So sorry. ❤️ littlemissmartypants Jan 2023 #18

Oh, how sad to hear! Very, VERY Understandable u feel like this ... electric_blue68 Jan 2023 #19

❤️ dajoki Jan 2023 #28

Day because day, hour by hour, minute by minute. Deep, slow breaths, too. electric_blue68 Jan 2023 #30

Sorry for your loss. Someone here mentioned "support group" and I know from personal Eliot Rosewater Jan 2023 #20

This message was self-deleted by its author Raine Jan 2023 #78

I'm so sorry, dajoki🤷‍♀️💕 Cha Jan 2023 #22

Peace to you. denbot Jan 2023 #24

I'm sorry Bettie Jan 2023 #25

Holding you in light and love. Your DU family is here for you. Lean as hard as niyad Jan 2023 #26

I love being a part of this community... dajoki Jan 2023 #91

Sending you peaceful and healing thoughts. nt Trueblue Texan Jan 2023 #27

Hugs snowybirdie Jan 2023 #29

It's ok to share SallyHemmings Jan 2023 #31

... Aristus Jan 2023 #32

Married 47 years. The thought of what you've endured is frightening. Sorry for your loss. spanone Jan 2023 #33

Sure tell us 1 or 2 things that were really great about her vlyons Jan 2023 #34

She was always there for anyone... dajoki Jan 2023 #92

Some days grief is like a gentle rain, other days it's like a raging storm at sea. democrank Jan 2023 #35

I'm so sorry for your loss. area51 Jan 2023 #36

I am very sorry for your loss. Of course you are very sad, and missing her on your anniversary. pnwmom Jan 2023 #37

A very short time malaise Jan 2023 #82

I'm glad you have a loving network of family and friends. As others have said, Tanuki Jan 2023 #38

I am so sorry. 💗. How did you two meet? MLAA Jan 2023 #39

Thank you for sharing dajoki Uncle Joe Jan 2023 #40

Peace and strength to you and family. kairos12 Jan 2023 #41

I am so sorry for your loss. essaynnc Jan 2023 #42

I'm sure you have many, many happy memories of her and the both of you FakeNoose Jan 2023 #43

big hugz Celerity Jan 2023 #44

Thinking of you at this moment Augiedog Jan 2023 #45

"Heavy Heart" is among the most descriptive phrases I can imagine. Stinky The Clown Jan 2023 #46

3 months is a very short time when trying to get used to a new reality. 3catwoman3 Jan 2023 #47

I am so very sorry. onecaliberal Jan 2023 #48

If you feel the need to talk about her dai13sy Jan 2023 #49

So sorry for your loss. Joinfortmill Jan 2023 #50

I'm very sorry for your loss. brer cat Jan 2023 #51

I like to think of the pain as beauty, and as gratitude for someone special lostnfound Jan 2023 #52

We're here for you mcar Jan 2023 #53

Anyone who has lost a loved one knows of what you speak. sellitman Jan 2023 #54

I am at a measly 29 years (27 of marriage) Lithos Jan 2023 #55

don't be afraid to try some therapy RussBLib Jan 2023 #56

((daj)) blm Jan 2023 #57

Wow! 44 years. hamsterjill Jan 2023 #58

(((((((Hugs)))))) UpInArms Jan 2023 #59

Love to you. Hope22 Jan 2023 #60

Blessings on the great memories from the good times! pazzyanne Jan 2023 #61

Sending love and support your way, dajoki. evolves Jan 2023 #62

I'm so sorry, dajoki. highplainsdem Jan 2023 #63

I'm so sorry for your loss, dajoki. BComplex Jan 2023 #64

I am so very sorry Dajoki for the loss of your dear wife. lucca18 Jan 2023 #65

Thank you for reaching out Wild blueberry Jan 2023 #66

wrapping you in love and light proud patriot Jan 2023 #67

So sorry for your loss lindalou65 Jan 2023 #68

I'm glad you are here with us. Big hugs to you. your grief means you loved her. flying_wahini Jan 2023 #69

I hear you. There's just no way you get used to losing Laura PourMeADrink Jan 2023 #71

Thank you for the depth of your feelings UTUSN Jan 2023 #72

Of course you need to share - to know that your pain matters to others, too. And it does. TygrBright Jan 2023 #73

... Nevilledog Jan 2023 #74

I am so sorry for your terrible loss. murielm99 Jan 2023 #75

I am very sorry about your wife Meowmee Jan 2023 #76

Deepest sympathy malaise Jan 2023 #77

A silent hug. Tom Yossarian Joad Jan 2023 #79

Deepest condolences. SheltieLover Jan 2023 #80

It takes time but does get better, dajoki nightwing1240 Jan 2023 #81

Thank you so much... dajoki Jan 2023 #90

❤️I am so sorry for your painful loss. peacebuzzard Jan 2023 #83

I'm terribly sorry for your loss. aocommunalpunch Jan 2023 #84

While I cannot ease your suffering I must say that you are fortunate twodogsbarking Jan 2023 #85

I have not lost my wife Snoopy 7 Jan 2023 #86

Try to focus on the good times you were lucky to share together. Lasher Jan 2023 #87

You feel free to talk about her as much as you wish. OldBaldy1701E Jan 2023 #88

My experience with loss BlueSky3 Jan 2023 #89

dajoki, thank you babylonsister Jan 2023 #93

So sorry! bluestarone Jan 2023 #94

I am so sorry for your loss. pandr32 Jan 2023 #95

Very sorry to hear of your enormous loss. Glad you have a lot of support. Keep the memories alive Evolve Dammit Jan 2023 #96

I totally understand and send love Richluu Jan 2023 #97

So very sorry, dajoki diva77 Jan 2023 #98

Thank you for posting this. Both for yourself and for us. calimary Jan 2023 #99

I'm a recent widow. I really feel for you. Ilsa Jan 2023 #100

Thank you for sharing your loss with us. If we can lift a tiny bit of your burden, it make US better TigressDem Jan 2023 #101

I'm so sorry TuxedoKat Jan 2023 #102

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I think those of us who have been married for years FEAR the..... usaf-vet Jan 2023 #103

I hope there's some light in your day today, stay strong. dem4decades Jan 2023 #104

The overwhelming care and support... dajoki Jan 2023 #105

So very sorry for your loss. GoneOffShore Jan 2023 #106

You go right ahead!! DFW Jan 2023 #107

I'm so sorry for your loss. BlueLucy Jan 2023 #108