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In reply to the discussion: I don't usually share stuff like this but... [View all]electric_blue68
(24,323 posts)19. Oh, how sad to hear! Very, VERY Understandable u feel like this ...
It's usually good to reach out.
You are very lucky to have family who are supporting you.
While not the same my very interesting, liberal, and highly creative mom who I deeply loved when she got to her early 80's, and bc she could still be (rare!) laid low by asthma...
I started to say to myself every once in a while when I worried about her that on the event of her death: "she wouldn't want me to be too sad for too long."
It was still devastating, but I managed not to go into a hole really of deep depression bc of this intermittent self talk which went on for about ?4-5 yrs before she died.
Everyone travels through grief in their own way, so take the time you need.
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I'm so sorry dajoki. It definitely helps to talk about those whom we loved and lost.
skylucy
Jan 2023
#2
Day because day, hour by hour, minute by minute. Deep, slow breaths, too.
electric_blue68
Jan 2023
#30
Sorry for your loss. Someone here mentioned "support group" and I know from personal
Eliot Rosewater
Jan 2023
#20
Married 47 years. The thought of what you've endured is frightening. Sorry for your loss.
spanone
Jan 2023
#33
Some days grief is like a gentle rain, other days it's like a raging storm at sea.
democrank
Jan 2023
#35
I am very sorry for your loss. Of course you are very sad, and missing her on your anniversary.
pnwmom
Jan 2023
#37
I'm glad you are here with us. Big hugs to you. your grief means you loved her.
flying_wahini
Jan 2023
#69
Of course you need to share - to know that your pain matters to others, too. And it does.
TygrBright
Jan 2023
#73
Very sorry to hear of your enormous loss. Glad you have a lot of support. Keep the memories alive
Evolve Dammit
Jan 2023
#96
Thank you for sharing your loss with us. If we can lift a tiny bit of your burden, it make US better
TigressDem
Jan 2023
#101