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vlyons

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5. We cannot change other people. We can only change ourselves.

Thu Jan 5, 2023, 12:00 AM

Jan 2023

Were I in your shoes, I would not lie. I would simply say I am not religious, but it's ok with me if you are. In the case of politics, I would simply say that I have different political views, and do not want to spoil our time together today arguing about politics. Then I would try to change the conversation to something neutral, like what hobbies, music, books, etc does she enjoy? If she can't respect you enough to not bug you about religion and politics, then I would simply not accept another luncheon date with her. You don't have to lie or apologize. I would just tell the truth about what's so for me without rancor or hostile words.

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Advice on potential new friend? [View all] birdographer Jan 2023 OP

If she spouts anti-Biden, call her an idiot and leave NoRethugFriends Jan 2023 #1

You could just reveal that you voted for Biden and support his presidency. Frasier Balzov Jan 2023 #2

I agree with this idea. Be assertive about your own views ecstatic Jan 2023 #14

No need to call her an idiot. IGNORE if possible, but if she insists on discussing it, say elleng Jan 2023 #3

If you feel that strongly about it (as I do as well).... Wishful-Thinking Jan 2023 #4

We cannot change other people. We can only change ourselves. vlyons Jan 2023 #5

What did you do with your old friends? If this person is in anyway the same as the others Bev54 Jan 2023 #6

Yeah... birdographer Jan 2023 #13

I find myself the same way but I would not say I am judgy so much as back years ago Bev54 Jan 2023 #16

tell her you are being paged by Planet Earth Skittles Jan 2023 #7

Voting records are posted by our County Board of Election. Hope22 Jan 2023 #8

This was brilliant birdographer Jan 2023 #12

Glad to help! Hope22 Jan 2023 #15

Why is saying "this isn't working out" intolerance? brooklynite Jan 2023 #9

I have some people like that in my life. 50 Shades Of Blue Jan 2023 #10

Maybe try to find out in advance what her views are Meowmee Jan 2023 #11

MAGAts don't wanna debate. They wanna argue and be told they are right. Kennah Jan 2023 #17