I feel that I should explain something

[Orrex]

This post was hidden, so I can't elaborate in-thread, but uppityperson raises a question that makes clear to me the carelessness of my wording.

In reply #25, it was asserted that "Nobody rapes by accident."

I took that to mean "nobody commits rape except (and only) after setting out to commit rape," which strikes me as self-evidently false.

I believe that my mistake was to focus too literally on the wording. I countered by suggesting that it is possible to be guilty of rape without intending it, in the same way that it's entirely possible to commit a wide range of crimes without realizing it. Having sex without knowing that one's partner is below the age of content. Still rape, I'd say, but not intentional.

Replies 58 & 60 make similar points.

Nevertheless, reply #36 offered what I found to be a farcical example:

It's not like accidentally hitting someone you didn't see with your car.

Finding this analogy inappropriate, I flippantly countered with another example, of committing a crime without realizing or intending it. I could probably have made my point better if I'd been more thoughtful about it. In any case, it was a fair hide, and I don't dispute it.

I apologize to anyone here who was reading that thread and who found my post painful or offensive.
I regret that I was careless and hasty in my wording.

[Kalidurga]

1. I took what you said in the context of the entire thread.

I agree it was very poor wording and I understand why people were offended. I agree about the age of consent. Unless you see a photo ID it can be an issue for anyone over 18. And as far as I know a lot of 18-20 year olds are attracted to people their own age, unfortunately some of those people aren't actually their age.

[Orrex]

3. Thanks (nt)

[ismnotwasm]

2. I didn't participate in that thread

But personally I understand and accept your clarification.

Rape is compared to a lot of things, but none suffice to explain the sense of total violation in my opinion. When compared to the inanimate, the comparisons get worse. And trust me, I've seen worse than your example.

[Orrex]

4. Thank you (nt)

[littlemissmartypants]

5. Kicking. Thank you. nt

[KitSileya]

6. Thank you for your clarification.

I appreciate that you posted this.