surprise surprise. my cobra is affordable.
ex told me that cobra would be $1500/mo, nearly twice what i was expecting for an aca plan. turns out that is the figure for the full family coverage that he/we have had. individual w scripts and dental is a little less than $600.
good news.
in the process of tracking down all the bills that he was paying, which, of course, he decided to make a little harder by not giving me any account numbers, etc.
he has been such a vindictive little shit. but, i get to talk to my kids and say- hey, that guy that hates me so much? nothing new. that guy used to come out and make my life miserable all the time. especially in a crisis. i could always count of him coming out to kick me when i was down.
who can live with that lurking around every corner?
anyway, everything worked out fine. i got a good settlement, all in all. i only got 7 years of fairly low maintenance, but i got enough assets to make up for that by actually making some money off my money.
gonna get it away from wall street and where it is actually investing in good things.
got some good real estate deals coming along.
all's well that ends well, i guess.
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NICE, kitty!!!
But seriously folks, it's a pleasure to learn of your success and happiness, kind of like mine!
it would be all good 
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