Well, I tried its pointless

[XanaDUer2]

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After a neutral, so I thought, normal conversation with my sister, she asked how much Xanax I took today bc "I'm out of it". I took no Xanax today.

For some context of. How nuts this is...the sopranos was on hbo. I thought we could discuss TS. she's apparently obsessed with it. Sure enough, bc i missed a few eps ( TS IS NOT THAT IMP TO ME ASSHOLE IF I MISS A FEW EPS FFS). then being harangued that I need to stream it or I won't understand it.

Ok i get it. Its a super violent show abt sociopaths. Then she was like quizzing me on what i saw. Its nothing but nagging lecturing, bullying. Fuck you. My new rule is ending contact as soon as the critisism starts. Why do I do this to myself?

She's working on her bank ruptcy. My jaw hurts today. Did I mention her car was repossed? Her water and elec are in a constant state of being turned on and off. Then there was her shoplifting charge.

ETA not only am I out of it, I'm more out of it than usual. She's on tons of pain meds and needs psychiatric care

ETA fun bday. Cousin didn't do her annual visit and insane invalidating sister told me off that i need to stop acting like I'm five its just another day etc. She doesn't know a lot back story and I'm not texting it to her. I got a good telling off today by some of the psychos who surround me. No problem is important until its YOUR problem right?

[Dennis Donovan]

1. You don't need advice from me since I'm a mess myself at times...

Here's a group hug.

From your friends at DU.

[XanaDUer2]

2. I finely got it today

I told her I'm fine and dropping it. She still thinks my gallbladder surgery was unnecessary

[brewens]

3. I love The Sopranos. Bad show to watch when you're on a diet though! LOL T and Big Pussy at Arty's

shoveling down the five-star pasta.

That show was part of the reason I was okay seeing a therapist. I'd been through some rough spots before and if anything, that bad happened again and I was depressed, I would ask to see someone.

It did and I just answered the intake questions truthfully at my doctor's office and indicated I had been depressed. He suggested an anti-depressant and I had always thought there was too much of that. People should see a therapist first maybe? So I did and that worked out well, but I ended up going for the anti-depressant.

It's Celexa and works great for me. One thing about that stuff is they also prescribe it for alcoholism. That's not why I'm on it but I think it works for that. I would only drink a few times a year. Usually when I broke training, I'd make it good and get drunk a few times over a week or so. About the first real hangover I got, and I was done again for months.

You can't drink on this shit, and I never have really had the urge. I'm like two years overdue.

My ex was like that with her bills, and I helped her out some for a while. It's one of the reasons we are done. She would know she was probably in trouble but not even open her bills. Like she was afraid to look. So then a utility gets cut off and it's an emergence and I'm on the phone fixing it for her. I had enough after a while and called it quits.

[XanaDUer2]

6. She begged off

Gotta call the water dept. Cannot flush the toilet. Hope she doesn't need to take a dump.

[XanaDUer2]

7. I sent her 400 last yr

No money again I'm starting to think she's bullshitting me

[quaint]

4. I echo Dennis, since I'm often a bit of a mess.

But! My sister and I are mid-seventies and a few months ago I had enough and stopped contact. My life is so much calmer and easier, I am astounded I didn't make a permanent break years ago. I was concerned one of us would die while we were estranged, now I don't give a hoot. We live in different states.

[MotownPgh]

5. Very wise.

I don't keep friends like that, why keep family? Good for you.

[Ziggysmom]

9. What a great takeaway! We allow people related to us to often abuse us in ways we would NEVER

tolerate from non-relatives. I’m an only child and don’t have much family, but I feel I may be better off than having to deal with impossible people.

Big Hugs to you and XanaDUer2!

[XanaDUer2]

10. Ty

I'm also in the midst of being shunned now by a cousin i thought was my best friend. I am not getting a visit for my bday this yr.

I do it bc I want to feel less alone and maintain good relationships with them.. so I take a lot, esp from my sister. The cousin was not that bad.

[XanaDUer2]

8. I should have stopped, and I did, at the sopranos

Craziness. Then I reached out still trying to establish a relationship

[quaint]

11. I totally understand, having always been the one reaching out.

[OldBaldy1701E]

12. Another to the mix!

(Okay, two.)