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My dad has been gone for 15 years, and I still think of him and miss him. You never get over losing your parent(s).
BlueKota
(4,742 posts)I agree, you never stop missing them.
cilla4progress
(26,465 posts)Must've been a great guy!
BlueKota
(4,742 posts)He always used to take my hand in his whenever we crossed the street even after, I was old enough to cross it safely on my own.
Bayard
(27,547 posts)My Dad was terrific. I'm just sorry I was across the country when he died, and only made it back for the funeral. I wish I could remember the wonderful DU'er who paid for that trip, and kept me going. I was in a fog.
BlueKota
(4,742 posts)It's such a hard thing to go through. It's such a supportive community here and it was so nice someone helped you with the travel expenses.
electric_blue68
(24,576 posts)I miss the best of my dad. Due to later 3 mid life depressions after the 2nd he got meaner, and meaner much of the time.
Then he had increasing serious memory issues from a bleeding stroke his mid late '80s. Then silver lining was eventually he forgot why he was so mad (we think unresolved issues from both his parents being heavy alchoholics); he became very sweet again.
Before all that he was fun-loving, smart, had a great sense of design, involved in the community, took care of my mom after she got bad asthma. When she was well, and at at least one or more vacations they were great ping pong players! The could stand away from the table and parry away!
If 34 yrs back did he die on the younger side?
BlueKota
(4,742 posts)the individuals suffering and the families. My Dad had a stroke when he was 79, and he was a lot more easily agitated than he was prior to it. I am sorry you, your family, and your Dad had to go through that.
It's a comfort to remember the good times.
My Dad was 22 years older than my Mom. He was already 54 when they had me. I was 29 when he died. My sister was 33. He died of conngestive heart failure. We lost Mom in 2008 to leukemia. I am so grateful to still have my sister.