Well....my brother died today.

[underpants]

Quite a character. It was just Mom him and me when I was 4 and he was 6. Lots of adventures. We moved a lot so we are both quite minimalists. My mom was a librarian so we had very intense quiet communication. Full conversations by a couple looks.

All the people who met him remember him by first name and when they met him.

Up and down the East Coast. Hampton RFK Philly Charlotte Raleigh Roanoke. Deadhead. 250 shows at least. Trust me anyone who ever met Jake remembers meeting him.

Funny smart really smart (Tolkien chapter and verse) loved food worked in lots of restaurants. We used to work in a pizza place where he tossed dough and I ran the ovens and the cash register. I wasn’t aware that we were “the show”. Families sat in the booths up front to watch us go at it about music pop culture history sports etc.



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[marble falls]

1. Sad news, but great memorial song.

[underpants]

44. Chinacat.

He loved that song.

[BlueKota]

2. I am so sorry for your loss.

[AltairIV]

3. Deepest condolences on your loss.

[mahatmakanejeeves]

4. I'm sorry to hear that. It's nice that you got along with him.

I’m not a big fan of the Grateful Dead, but GD Radio is on my playlist.

https://www.gdradio.net/

[LuckyCharms]

5. I'm so sorry, underpants.

He sounds like a great guy.

May he Rest in Peace.

[babylonsister]

6. Oh, I hate this for you, for anyone.

Sincerest condolences.

[Irish_Dem]

7. Condolences to you UP.

What wonderful memories you have of Jake.
What character and neat guy.

[surfered]

8. He will live on in your memories.

[Grim Chieftain]

9. Very sorry for the loss of your brother, underpants

You are in my thoughts.

[democrank]

10. Such a loss for you. Hold on to those memories.

Take care of yourself~

[yellow dahlia]

11. Thank you for sharing your/his story.

He lived a life worth remembering.

[sheshe2]

12. I am so sorry for your loss.

RIP, Jake.

[58Sunliner]

13. My deepest condolences for your loss.🧡

[bamagal62]

14. So sorry

For your loss. ❤️

[dickthegrouch]

15. Deepest Condolences, dear Underpants /nt

[sinkingfeeling]

16. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[JMCKUSICK]

17. Thank you for celebrating his amazing life Underpants

You shared a treasure with us today.

[SheltieLover]

18. Deepest condolences

Healing vibes on the way to you.

[2naSalit]

19. Sorry to hear.

My condolences.

[MIButterfly]

20. I'm so sorry for your loss, underpants.

I extend to you and your family my condolences. May your memories of your brother eventually bring you peace.

With love and deep sympathy,
MIButterfly

[mountain grammy]

21. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[marked50]

22. Sorry for you loss and thanks for sharing those beautiful memories. n/t

[ancianita]

23. Your love for him shines through these memories,

and may your heart find peace, underpants.

[hibbing]

24. Ugh, sorry for your loss

[murielm99]

25. I am so sorry.

It is hard to lose a sibling.

[BumRushDaShow]

26. Sending heartfelt sympathy to you

Your happy memories will help to sustain you.

[True Dough]

27. Next time I order a pie,

I'll think of you and Jake. Wish I could have a slice with you both and listen to you debate.

My condolences on your loss, underpants.

[Sailingdiver]

28. Sorry to hear.

Sounds like you have a lot of memories. Keep those alive.

Great tune. Love the Dead!

[FalloutShelter]

29. Sorry for your profound loss.

[herding cats]

30. He sounds really amazing!

My heart to you.

[spooky3]

31. Very sorry to hear this. Condolences on your loss nt

[orangecrush]

32. Sorry for your loss

[Picaro]

33. Sincere condolences

[Diamond_Dog]

34. I'm so sorry underpants.

The way you described him, he sounds like someone I wish I’d met. Peace to all of you.

[tavernier]

35. As an only child, all my life, I have wished for a sibling.

My heart felt sympathy as you grieve for your loss, but at the same time you have something that can’t be taken away from you.

Cherish the memories my friend.

[PatrickforB]

36. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hard to lose a sibling. n/t

[montanacowboy]

37. So sorry

[Karadeniz]

38. Oh, no!!!!! Sad for you.....

[Chemical Bill]

39. I'm so sorry.

I only went to 3 Dead shows, so I didn't meet him, but I'm sure we had mutual friends.

[mahina]

40. What a loss! Maybe we danced together.

The music never stops…
Wishing you comfort and peace of mind.

[underpants]

43. ❤️ 🎶

[Marthe48]

41. I'm sorry for your loss

I hope that your conversations will resume someday. I had a brother like that, miss him a lot.

Be nice to yourself.

[Alice Kramden]

42. Sweet memories

May your heart be comforted by the love surrounding you

[CousinIT]

45. I am so sorry for your loss!

I know you will cherish your memories of him for the rest of your days. He sounds like a great guy and your memories are heartwarming. Wishing you and your family lots of peace and strength at this heartbreaking time.

[brer cat]

46. I'm very sorry for your loss. That was a very sweet remembrance.

[Ilsa]

47. I hope those memories will continue to comfort you as you

grieve this loss. Big hugs, underpants.

[Sogo]

48. So sorry for your loss.

It sounds like you'll always have wonderful memories of him.

[greatauntoftriplets]

49. Oh underpants, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Your brother sounds like quite a character who followed his own path. If you and your mother moved around a lot when you were kids, you probably were close friends throughout childhood. The double act in the pizza place has to have been hilarious.

Cherish your memories of him.

[Duncanpup]

50. Condolences

[paleotn]

51. Condolences.

Sounds like we lost a great one.

[Gore1FL]

52. I am sorry.

As the very youngest of four, I fear I will bury at least one of my siblings.

I got all the cardio-vascular genes and the anger issues, so maybe the three of them will bury me, after all.

[BootinUp]

53. Sorry for your loss. Nt

[Lemon Lyman]

54. We're sorry

[no_hypocrisy]

55. I'm so sorry. Losing someone like your brother is such a blow.

I hope your memories give you comfort.

[fierywoman]

56. Oh, no! I'm so sorry for your loss.

[mokeyz]

57. so very sorry

for your loss - sending hugs💙💛

[Ellipsis]

58. To fond memories... they enrich us and keep us smiling through the hardship.

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I'm very sorry for the loss of your brother and wish you and yours the best.

[Hey Joe]

59. So sorry you lost your brother

It’s damn hard losing the most precious people in your life.
Wishing you the best.

[AZJonnie]

60. So sorry for your loss UP

Sounds you have wonderful memories full of love & great times together. Can't hope for too much more than that in life

May Jake pass gently and be remembered fondly by all

[AllyCat]

61. My condolences on the loss of your brother.

I’m so sorry.

[KitFox]

62. Oh underpants, so so sorry you lost your big brother. Reading your description and memories of him brings an image of a

life well lived and a bond that will forever be with you. Take special care of yourself; grief can feel so physical, too. Peace and gentle hugs to you. 🧡🧡🧡

[Dyedinthewoolliberal]

63. Condolences to you.

Eom

[MLAA]

64. Sending you and all who loved Jake kind thoughts and may your memories remain vivid. ❤️

[highplainsdem]

65. Oh, God, I'm so sorry. It sounds like you were very close. Those are great memories of him, and he

sounds like someone who made friends everywhere he went.

I've been very open here about believing in an afterlife (though I'm not religious and I don't believe one's religion matters at all), and believing as well that our loved ones on the other side can sometimes find ways of comforting us when we're grieving, reassuring us that they're fine. I hope that will happen for you and Jake's other loved ones.

[pdxflyboy]

66. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Healing vibes to you, underpants.

[SleeplessinSoCal]

67. Wonderful tribute to your brother.

❤️

[mercuryblues]

68. 🪽

[quaint]

69. Strength and comfort to you and his close ones.

[Morbius]

70. I wish there was something I could offer that would make this easier for you.

There isn't. I think it helps at times like this to remember you are not alone, and it's sometimes okay to lean on other people. Or let them lean on you. That doesn't make it easier but I think it should help you cope.

Best wishes and sincere condolences; Morbius.

[sdfernando]

71. So sorry for your loss

Sounds like you two had an amazing relationship and life. Remember all of those good times!

[chowder66]

72. ....

[MuseRider]

73. I am so sorry.

I became the last living member of my family about 6 months ago. It hurts and will for a while. Hold those good memories close. I am so so sorry. I never had a sister but my brothers were the best, all gone before I cross 71yo.

Be well. If you ever feel like dumping you can always send a mail. I have known you so long here that it feels like family and I am so sorry you are going through this.

[Eko]

74. Ah Big Hug to ya.

So sorry, thanks for coming on here and sharing about him and you.
When that happens in my life I like to watch this, and thanks for including the Dead, I gotta re-learn that diminished run Jerry did on Help on the way/Slipknot.

Keep on keeponing.
Eko.

[underpants]

106. Thanks. I didn't get that was Neil for a bit.

❤️

[Solly Mack]

75. I'm sorry for the loss of your big brother.

My heartfelt condolences to you.

[Alice B.]

76. I'm so sorry for your loss. Glass raised,

[IcyPeas]

77. Very sorry for your loss.

[JohnnyLib2]

78. A big loss

Very sorry to hear this. My condolences'.

[BComplex]

79. I'm so sorry for your loss, underpants.

Close sibling relationships are primally important to who we become/are. I'm glad that you had him in your life all these years.

When someone you love dies, the love doesn't. The love lives on in you. Sending you a big hug.

[irisblue]

80. I am so sorry for your loss

[LoisB]

81. I am so sorry. He sounds like a wonderful person. Peace and strength to you 'pants.

[debm55]

82. Sorry. sorry. underpants. May the memories of your brother bring you good memories to you and your family

[Uncle Joe]

83. Thank you for sharing underpants

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Peace, strength and healing to you and your family.

[EllieBC]

84. May his memory be a blessing. Thank you

for sharing stories about him. I think you’d both have made a fabulous show at a pizza joint.

[Skittles]

85. so very sorry

I've lost two, it hurts

[yardwork]

86. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Your brother sounds like an amazing person. I wish I had known him.

[CaptainTruth]

87. I'm so sorry...

Cherish those memories, they will be with you forever.

[Phoenix61]

88. I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you two had wonderful adventures together. nt

[essaynnc]

89. Sorry for your loss...

But so glad that you have so great memories of the two of you together !!!! May you Be at peace

[JBTaurus83]

90. Sorry for your loss.

I’ve lost a couple of uncles who were Deadheads. Nice song choice.

[Bayard]

91. I'm sorry, Underpants

He sounds like a great brother and friend.

Maybe this will help some. When I lost my big brother, I started writing down everything I remembered about him, every story, every hug. Its something to hang onto. If he had kids, they'd probably appeciate it too.

Take care of yourself, and we're here for you.

[LA Blue Bengal]

92. My deepest condolences

for your loss. He sounds like a great person.

[DaBronx]

93. Condolences to you

It is difficult to lose a sibling, one who shared the uniqueness of growing up together.
May you have strength and good memories to carry you forward.
Peace to you.

[Docreed2003]

94. Sincere condolences on your loss underpants

[hamsterjill]

95. I am sorry for the loss of your brother.

Peace and comfort to you and to his other family and friends.

[choie]

96. I am so sorry that you lost your brother.

[BaronChocula]

97. May his aura be scarlet begonias

and sugar magnolias.

[underpants]

107. nod

[marmar]

98. .......

[area51]

99. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[mzmolly]

100. I'm very sorry.

My condolences to you and yours.

[InAbLuEsTaTe]

101. You have my sincerest condolences... sendin you virtual hugs.

🤗 🤗 🤗

[KT2000]

102. What a loss

I am sorry. Losing a close sibling is like losing part of yourself. Peace to you.

[Grumpy Old Guy]

103. I'm sorry for your loss.

😥

[UTUSN]

104. ...

[lonely bird]

105. Peace to you and those who loved him

May his memory be a comfort.

[summer_in_TX]

108. Sounds like quite a guy.

So sorry for your loss. May your memories of the good times bring you comfort.

[HeartsCanHope]

109. My deepest condolences to you and your family. Will be thinking of you.

[Hekate]

110. I'm so sorry for your loss -- sounds like you had good memories to cherish

May Jake cross gently and meet you on the other side.

[Figarosmom]

111. Sounds like a great guy to hang with.

Sorry you lost him. Glad you have such good memories to hold.🕯

[BlueWaveNeverEnd]

112. Im sorry 😞

[JoseBalow]

113. I'm sorry

[blm]

114. 🫶🏽🕯️💐

[peacebuzzard]

115. That is rough; i am sorry for your loss

[BigmanPigman]

116. I would be in a state of shock right now.

I don't handle death well at all. Even though I am an atheist I know that our energies never end but continue in another form.

That helps me a tiny bit but not enough to console me. The passage of time doesn't seem to lessen the loss I feel either. That's just me I guess.

I hope you handle it better than I would.

[NNadir]

117. He sounds like a wonderful brother and man. Please accept my condolences.

[gademocrat7]

118. Condolences underpants

On the loss of your beloved brother.

[mwmisses4289]

119. gentle hug🫂

Sorry to hear about your loss.

[OldBaldy1701E]

120. I am sorry.

I hope you two had a great relationship and the memories will be forever.

[Donkees]

121. In Celebration of Jake ❤

❤ ''For we put the thought of all that we love into all that we make.''
- JRR Tolkien

[TommieMommy]

122. So sorry 🙏🙏

[Danmel]

123. I'm so sorry

May sweet memories of your beloved brother bring you comfort and peace.

[barbtries]

124. I'm so sorry.

If you'd been on the West Coast, he and my brother John would have definitely been friends. Love your memories here, may they and many more comfort you profoundly.

[70sEraVet]

125. So sorry for the loss of your brother.

[Wicked Blue]

126. I am so sorry for your loss, dear underpants

Blessings of peace, heaing and wonderful memories for you.

[Clouds Passing]

127. I am sorry for your loss, underpants.

You are so lucky to have had a good relationship with a very cool brother.

Jake

[Emile]

128. I'm sorry you are going through this heartache.

I lost my brother in April, and I miss him.

[MayReasonRule]

129. 🫂🫂🫂🫂

[malaise]

130. Deepest sympathy to you and yours underpants

[Fla Dem]

131. So sorry for your loss, but you know he'll always be with you in heart and soul.

[peggysue2]

132. Condolences, underpants

Losing a sibling is really hard, a punch to the head and heart.

Be kind to yourself. Sending hugs.

[flashman13]

133. You and your brother shared a truly beautiful long strange trip. Condolences

[LetMyPeopleVote]

134. I am sorry for your loss

[Mad_Dem_X]

135. Condolences on your loss.

[GoneOffShore]

136. May his memory be a blessing! Would have loved to have known him.

[pandr32]

137. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.

You shared so much. It must be hard.

[Faux pas]

138. My condolences to you underpants

and to all who knew and loved him.

[Deuxcents]

139. ((🤍)) My sincere condolences

[swimboy]

140. I'm so sorry 💙

[kentuck]

141. My condolences for your loss...

These are some difficult times.

[turbinetree]

142. ........

[cate94]

143. I'm so sorry

[IbogaProject]

144. So sorry for your loss

And also sorry to have lost a fellow east coast dead head with over 150 shows seen while Jerry was alive.

[littlemissmartypants]

145. ...

[red dog 1]

146. So sorry for your loss.

250 Grateful Dead shows?
Wow!

[Celerity]

147. You have my deep condolences, Under.

[luvallpeeps]

148. Excruciating.

So sorry for your loss. Sounds like a great brother. I feel for you.💔

[cliffside]

149. ...

[electric_blue68]

150. Dang! Very sorry to hear this.

[Ocelot II]

151. I'm so sorry!

[OAITW r.2.0]

152. I might have met him momentarily at some show -CT to ME..

He was certainly a brother in the musical dimension.

That sucks, but the reality of mortality appears inescapable. Best thoughts my friend.

[Niagara]

153. My condolences on your loss underpants