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[LuckyCharms]

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[Robertmiller1220]

1. Solidarity

I have a diagnosis of Bipolar Disorder. I can relate. Thanks for your courage and your post. Stay Well.

[LuckyCharms]

3. Hi Robert! Welcome to DU!

Hang tough, buddy. You're among good people.

[LetMyPeopleVote]

31. Welcome to DU

[sheshe2]

2. 💙💙💙

[LuckyCharms]

4. Thanks, She

Enjoy your day today.

[Tadpole Raisin]

5. Wonderful description of what I know I'm feeling.

Years ago I stumbled on the book The Noonday Demon, An Atlas of Depression by Andrew Solomon.

It may not be to everyone’s taste but I found it thought provoking and insightful in many ways. And for whatever reason, reading your post made me think of it.

[Marthe48]

6. I posted this story in Cooking and BakingWhat's for Breakfast today

Creamed Chipped Beef on Toast Cubes
This morning, as I got settled with my coffee, I had the strongest sensation of my Mom hugging me. I knew immediately it was her. I'm comforted and yearning by this moment. This is the first time I've had the sensation of getting hugged by my Mom. She passed away in 2007.

When I was very young, my Mom would make chipped beef on toast, and cut the toast into cubes before she put the chipped beef on. One day, she made chipped beef and put it on a whole slice of toast. I complained that the toast wasn't cut. She said I was old enough to cut the toast myself. Looking back over my most persistent memories, I realize that this was a defining moment in my personal independence. My Mom made sure then and every step of the way that I would be able to handle everything that came along. Today, she gave me a hug to remind me that I can keep going and get through this. Thanks, Mom.

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I have despaired, and I know I will keep trying to make better what I can. Every good thing I do is one thing that evil can't destroy. Sometimes we have to put one foot in front of the other without thinking of how far we have to walk. I think having an experience like I had this morning will help me keep going.

[LuckyCharms]

7. Poignant. Thank you for this, Marthe.

[mwmisses4289]

14. Often the good we do are small things:

a smile as we pass a stranger, a hug to a friend, opening a door for some one with their arms full...
It may not change the world, but sometimes a small act of kindness may make someone's day a little brighter.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

18. A small act of kindness does change the world

for both the recipient and the giver.

[Annie Moosee]

8. roughly 20 years ago

I was diagnosed w major depression as well. But I've always been on the edge. And I've not been able to get back to what I was. Not sure if that's good or bad... what i was lead to the depression.

I felt (and still do) like I was a geo metro asked to haul a trailer. Ok for a small trailer, if going slow. But to be asked to go at speed? Burn out is a mild way of putting it.

[Wild blueberry]

9. Thank you for posting this eloquent history

You're sure right about how hard it is for all of us sentient beings these days.
Solidarity, brother! Thank you.

[Martin68]

10. I took medication for low level depression for over 10 years, and got off it about 5 years ago. doing pretty good.

Thanks for sharing your story.

[Evolve Dammit]

11. Thank you for your story. So glad for you coming out of it. What is going on now is so morally disgusting and criminal

that I can't ignore it. Listening to Hakeem yesterday, I cried for this country. Have been this way for 9 years with a 4 year respite when Uncle Joe and Kamala provided normalcy and hope. And actually some damn good progress.
This is heading in a very bad direction and is being ushered in by willing participants everywhere. I can't move on. This is an abusive takeover of government and as un-American as it could be. I will go to rallies, provide for my family and stand my fucking ground, but that's about all I can manage right now.

[Cirsium]

12. Great post

Thanks for that.

[iluvtennis]

13. Hugs to you @LuckyCharms

[mwmisses4289]

15. 🫂

[Iamscrewed]

16. Thanks

I've been an alcoholic/off and on drug user since I was a teenager. I've been fighting depression the whole time without seeking help. My family and most friends are aware of it. I've been borderline suicidal on many occasions but I've managed to make it 60 years, I'm not giving up or going quietly into the dark. Keep fighting.

[yardwork]

17. What a beautiful powerful courageous post.

Thank you for this.

[bluboid]

19. whoa, Mr LuckyCharms -

so happy to meet you! God bless you & all of us as we make our way thru this new world reality... it's looking messy on the horizon - but all we can do is keep our eyes & ears open, & take things one day at a time...

[Harker]

20. We're lucky, Lucky.

[sprinkleeninow]

21. Happening to me in a sense. A wave will come upon me unexpectedly.

Since the passing of my sweet girl dog in March, just magnifies depressive happenings in our 'climate'.

I could see how some are brought to the brink of their endurance, and thus I'd never judge them. I don't have all the answers to 'life'. I receive some internal answers in my soul, but still in human form with carnal tendencies, I do question things.

May you and yours continue to be at peace, stay safe and maintain healthy endurance.

~sprinkleeninow

[Clouds Passing]

22. Empaths feel what others feel. Sometimes turning to substances to stop feeling.

Proud of you LuckyCharms for 20 years of sobriety and for coping with your depression in healthier ways.

Hang in there. IFS, EMDR, Somatic Experiencing are excellent ways to manage difficult thoughts and emotions.

I’ve been sober for 22 years and could not imagine living life one more second in a mental/emotional stupor.

[Attilatheblond]

24. Years ago, I read some studies on depression (yeah I was deep in one, looking for a way out)

Many studies came to the same conclusion: Most depressed people are actually more deeply into reality than those who label themselves as 'basically happy'. And, like you, I have long been able to observe, see how the dots connected, and predict where things were going. Your sight was made possible to you because you dared to live in the dark tunnel and find your way out without just forgetting. You are brave.

As a defense against falling down the dark tunnel again, I generally stopped seeing too far ahead. But still, I saw where things were heading. Actually, since my early 20s, a very long time ago, I saw the worst of what was coming. Stayed busy with 'life' and tried to hide from what I saw as inevitable. Now that my life is slow and there is no busy work to distract me, and the inevitable is here. That dark tunnel looms large again and I know it is not an imagined horror. It is real.

There are so many people I love, who will never know the affection I hold for them. Simple people, just going thru life, being kind, doing good. And it is so damned hard not to cry 24/7 as I watch their hearts and minds being broken by the darkness that is not my own tunnel, but the one the worst human beings insist on herding us all into.

I am at a loss. Energy is low. I know courage and energy are required, but the well is empty for me and that is terrifying for someone who always saw clearly, but fought anyway.

[LuckyCharms]

25. This hit me hard.

You understand.

You are brave as well, even if you don't feel that way right now.

"You are brave". I needed to hear that. No one else would say that, unless they understood.

Even the people close to you do not understand the tremendous courage it takes.

So you are brave. You are courageous. And I understand what you have been through.

"You are brave". Three little words that everyone needs to hear.

And your implication about depression is astute...I think in a way, depressed people "see reality" more clearly, without having to pretend.

I knew I needed someone to tell me something.

I didn't know " you are brave " was that something. But it was.

Maybe your well isn't empty after all.

[Attilatheblond]

26. Maybe my well isn't dry just yet. If so, it is because of those I love and have never met.

Thank you, I too needed to hear/read that others DO understand.

[NCgayguy]

28. This hit me hard too!

[Faux pas]

27. Thank you 😊 for sharing LuckyCharms!

[NCgayguy]

29. This is one of the best parts of DU!

Dear LuckyCharms,

To come across your post today and feel your emotions is overwhelmingly moving. DU offers so much more than just politics. After lurking here for nearly 2 decades, I recently joined. I wasn't sure why I did it that day. I was looking for something to help me escape just for a moment of the reality of my husband of 41 years, My Tommy, dying in my arms of pancreatic cancer.

It's post like yours that tells me I needed DU, no wonder I am drawn to it while I suffer to find comfort. I refrain from sharing my whole truth with everyone here for many reasons. When I see post like yours, I know I can let myself go for a moment in a shared emotion. My pain is released if only for a few moments!

Thank you!

May You Always Be Healthy, Safe and Happy, AND LOVED!
Reis

[LuckyCharms]

30. Dear Reis

I'm very sorry to read about the passing of your beloved husband.

May Tommy rest in peace and may you bask in your good memories.

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply.

Stay strong.

[some_of_us_are_sane]

32. Lucky Charms, you are a member of a VERY BIG CLUB

and DEFINITELY not alone. I've been sober since 1977. Before that, 2 stints in the psych ward, 28 days each, with severe depression. But it was there I was introduced to AA, which had a meeting in that hospital. So MANY of us in DU are bright, sensitive and intelligent sufferers who have an in-depth understanding of life's challenges and difficulties. (Yes, politics as well.)

We know to reach out, to SHARE, and always remember that LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE. I'M HAPPY YOU'RE HERE AND PART OF A GROUP OF WONDERFUL FELLOW TRAVELERS.

[justaprogressive]

33. When I finally got to see a therapist in my late 20's

after I described being regularly beaten with a belt for reading past my bedtime...
(a created learning disability.)

He turned to my wife and said: "He walks he talks!"