Hi DUers, I'm still sad about recent happenings in the news but better today...Glad you are here...

[wcmagumba]

I was also ghosted by some long time friends (40 plus years) for no apparent reason.

[OAITW r.2.0]

1. Just wondering....why and how are your friends ghosting you here?

[wcmagumba]

2. Not here, they are not on DU...Just by texting on phone...I live a few hundred miles from them....

Sorry for the misunderstanding...

[SheltieLover]

3. Maybe they lost or broke phone?

Either way, you have friends here.

[Tetrachloride]

4. ++1;

[usonian]

5. Cheer up. My "friends" never reply to emails, so they can't ghost me.

Focus on what you can do.

Control what you can control.

Influence abd encourage those you can influence and encourage.

Follow Indivisible. I post their newsletters even when it means copying links.

I am downsizing and offer stuff to "friends". No reply. I give it to charity.

People are lazy and uncaring. Fuggedabouthem. They are, as we used to say, psychic energy drains. Just do some good, or at least try.

Make new friends. I'm going to, even if it means moving.

[wcmagumba]

6. Thank-you. I do live about 100ft from the local Senior Rec Center...I haven't used it much...

They have afternoon games (cards and dominoes) and I will start to visit over there. I've always been a loner, never married or any kids. They also get meals on wheels and I checked with the lady in charge a couple of weeks ago and she told me they had no availability...this lady lives a couple of apts from me and I have fixed her internet and tv a couple of times but she don't seem to like me much...hmmm..

[usonian]

9. Good luck!

I was married 27 years. We gave it a shot.

I moved to the boondocks when we divorced and sold the home. Spectacular location. Friends I though would flock here didn't. So I gave away guest accommodation stuff. Lately, more. "New" friends are 50 miles away. Same deal. Presence is everything.

Senior center is 12 miles away. All redneck married ppl. Our district got redder to make more districts blue.

I do plan to move. Lived near one shore or another all but these 10 years. I will be present. It's still a world of people. Everywhere but here.

Too bad. It's so scenic. People count more (and stores and services )

4 DU members left town. Two families moved. One friend has work elsewhere and is never around. I used to bum rides from him!

I posted some possible ways to help seniors. I'll give the ideas away to younger people.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/118313235

Good friends here.

[electric_blue68]

12. I'm sorry you're experiences have led you to think....

"People are lazy, and uncaring"

Sure some people might be lazy at times. There's definitely uncaring, mean people out there, too. Leaned that decades before rPesident bastard.

At least in my experience I've know/known many caring people. Very good friends through decades. And received the kindness of strangers during accidents; the rare trips, and falls.Other types of occasions.

[usonian]

14. Unfortunately, I'm evidence-based.

But others have noticed that this location seems to have a moat around it. People don't visit. Two large cities are 50 miles away, one a bus ride.

It's a tourist town. Grocery is a language lab.

It was different in suburbs. Presence is everything, and I had many great experiences in the neighborhood, vicinity and at work. I worked at a university and even on a sales team. Others too.

Here's a thread on Hacker News. There are caring people. Just not my so-called friends. Lazy bums. I make that 50 mile trip mainly to shop. A handful of stores here, so it's doable.

https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=46236001

443 points is a BIG deal.
I'm in there (anonymously)

I have received a few kindnesses. More often, I have done kindnesses to others.

It will improve when I am "present". These old legs move great, even if younger ones don't.

[electric_blue68]

16. Then I'm sorry you've currently have lazy friends...

And glad you had other good times. 👍

So on Hacker News was yours the question that got 443 points? Wasn't sure.

Great stories from the Aussies in England, the guy in Taiwan, the guy w no $ at the gas station.

Oh, yeah, I do kindnesses, too.

[usonian]

17. Not the OP. I'll stay anonymous.

Just one of the repliers.

Proud that I did good for others.

Details via DM.


Hacker News posts that get a lot of points/replies are often polite flame wars. Like DU, it's a heavily moderated site, and that's a big plus.

[Scrivener7]

7. I'm glad you're here too.

[canetoad]

8. Cheer up!

I for one, enjoy your posts.

[UTUSN]

10. It's been an extra extra strange year - we're safe here

[surfered]

11. Happy Hanukkah or Merry Christmas!

[wcmagumba]

15. Thanks, I hope the same happiness for you and yours...

[electric_blue68]

13. Perhaps they are going through difficulties?

I have a dear friend of around 46 years (thoough we were out of touch for around 20 yrs, and missed her,but she refound me a few years ago!).
We've been phoning, then she switched to texting. Her younger sister (might be her closest of 3 sibs) suddenly had terrible medical problem of which it's been a slow road to recovery.

But she was still in touch. But I haven't heard from her since late July. I didn't realize it's been that long. : ( I also hope she hadn't gotten sick herself.

I hope your friends will get back in touch!
🤞
And yes, I enjoy your posts.
Enjoy your Holidays as best you can!